Back in the days when people hung out in parlors and played mind-expanding games, this could have spawned some very interesting evenings.
[I]n the past decade or so a handful of psychologists have argued that the quicksilver elements of personal narrative belong in any three-dimensional picture of personality. And a burst of new findings are now helping them make the case. Generous, civic-minded adults from diverse backgrounds tell life stories with very similar and telling features, studies find; so likewise do people who have overcome mental distress through psychotherapy.[…] During a standard life-story interview, people describe phases of their lives as if they were outlining chapters, from the sandlot years through adolescence and middle age. […] In analyzing the texts, the researchers found strong correlations between the content of people’s current lives and the stories they tell. Those with mood problems have many good memories, but these scenes are usually tainted by some dark detail. The pride of college graduation is spoiled when a friend makes a cutting remark. The wedding party was wonderful until the best man collapsed from drink. A note of disappointment seems to close each narrative phrase.
By contrast, so-called generative adults — those who score highly on tests measuring civic-mindedness, and who are likely to be energetic and involved — tend to see many of the events in their life in the reverse order, as linked by themes of redemption.
[…] “We find that when it comes to the big choices people make — should I marry this person? should I take this job? should I move across the country? — they draw on these stories implicitly, whether they know they are working from them or not,” Dr. McAdams said.
The article reviews several semi-overlapping studies on the interplay between our personal narrative, our life and our character so I had a hard time choosing just one chunk to excerpt. If you adamantly insist on not reading the whole thing, cross the flip to find out about the surprising value of revisiting the past from a third person perspective.
In a 2005 study reported in the journal Psychological Science, researchers at Columbia University measured how student participants reacted to a bad memory, whether an argument or failed exam, when it was recalled in the third person. They tested levels of conscious and unconscious hostility after the recollections, using both standard questionnaires and students’ essays. The investigators found that the third-person scenes were significantly less upsetting, compared with bad memories recalled in the first person.
“What our experiment showed is that this shift in perspective, having this distance from yourself, allows you to relive the experience and focus on why you’re feeling upset,” instead of being immersed in it, said Ethan Kross, the study’s lead author. The emotional content of the memory is still felt, he said, but its sting is blunted as the brain frames its meaning, as it builds the story.
[…] In an experiment published in 2005, researchers had college students who described themselves as socially awkward in high school recall one of their most embarrassing moments. Half of the students reimagined the humiliation in the first person, and the other half pictured it in the third person.Two clear differences emerged. Those who replayed the scene in the third person rated themselves as having changed significantly since high school — much more so than the first-person group did. The third-person perspective allowed people to reflect on the meaning of their social miscues, the authors suggest, and thus to perceive more psychological growth.
And their behavior changed, too. After completing the psychological questionnaires, each study participant spent time in a waiting room with another student, someone the research subject thought was taking part in the study…[R]ecordings showed that members of the third-person group were much more sociable than the others. “They were more likely to initiate a conversation, after having perceived themselves as more changed,” said Lisa Libby, the lead author and a psychologist at Ohio State University.
FYI.
incontrolados
Luckily, I’ve had a third person perspective for more than 20 years in the form of my best friend. When he looked at my performance appraisal last weekend, his first thought (mine was that it was negative — I’m abbrasive, combative, am on probation for challenging a prof at my university about Iraq, blah blah blah) was that I have mellowed in the last few years and I should be given a break — since I have come so far. . . I haven’t gotten into a physical fight for several years. . . wait make that I have been in a fight a couple of years ago, but I didn’t start it. I haven’t started a fight since high school.
incontrolados
ack — make that GOT in a fight
Leader Desslok
What a bunch of hippie crap.
srv
See, the liberals are just turning you into a pussy.
Jim
Games like “eat the mushrooms”?
RSA
Maybe Russian roulette. Which, now that I think of it, would produce similar results, metaphorically speaking, to describing my most personally embarrassing moments to my circle of friends.
But the study results do sound pretty plausible. Interesting stuff.
Zombie Santa Claus
My story’s been available in print for about 160 years.
“Call me Ishmael..”
Tax Analyst
Wait…I’m getting confused now…I thought your name was “Zombie Santa Claus”…and now you tell me it’s not? It’s a sad, sad day when Santa Claus lies to you…even if he is a Zombie…
ThymeZone
I was born in a log cabin in Beverly Hills, California ….
It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.
The mate was a mighty sailin’ man,
The Skipper brave and sure,
Five passengers set sail that day
For a three hour tour.
A three hour tour.
jpe
French philosopher Paul Ricoeur beat ’em to the punch by a decade or so.
Tax Analyst
Is it true that Ginger slapped the silly piss out of you when you tried to get fresh?