I’ve mentioned before that I am a world-class hypochondriac. If I have an ingrown hair, I think I have melanoma. Every sniffle is the black plague. As such, I’m also exceedingly cautious about some things. There are certain things I do not do. Skydiving comes to mind. Paragliding. Spelunking. Mountain-climbing. Deep-sea diving.
I’ve managed to find any number of ways to hurt/injure myself that I just don’t feel the need to add to my risk profile. I’ve proven it is possible to near kill yourself mopping or walking your dog, and some days I think my La-Z-Boy could use a seatbelt. My sister loves to do all those things and more- river-rafting, triathlons, skydiving, you name it. Me- not so much. I’m not going to go out drowning in the second leg of a triathlon or stuck in some sunken ship off the coast of nowhere with an empty air tank and a shark gun. No- If I drown, it will probably because I had two martinis and fell asleep in the hot tub.
But that is just me. So on one level, I understand what Anne Laurie was trying to say in this post about the four folks killed by Somali Pirates. On one level, you want to say “I don’t know anyone who has been killed by Somali Pirates, and that is because no one I know is dumb enough to go yachting in pirate-infested Somali waters!” On the other hand, it is still blaming the victim- sure, what they were doing is dangerous, but it was only dangerous because of the murderous cretins.
And I also disagree that our military and national pride is shamed because we had a warship dispatched to follow them after they were kidnapped. To me, that is a measure of national pride- “We are so badass we will send a warship you so much as screw with just a few of our citizens.” Likewise, let’s do a thought experiment. Let’s say four young women were walking around a bad part of town at night. Everyone knows it is a bad part of town, but they wanted to get from point a to point b, so they had to go through it. If those women were jumped, raped, and murdered, no one here would even think to blame them for walking through that part of town. No one would think to complain about the fact that we had to dispatch a bunch of police and rescue personnel.
So I understand what Anne Laurie was trying to say, but sometimes when you blog hard and fast, what comes off is not what you hoped it would and says something you really didn’t mean.