My inner Canadian politely encourages me to listen to CBC’s Q on occasion, and this interview touched even a cynical old fucker like me. These two Philosophy majors met in college, fell in love, pursued a dream of sailing, and then started a band with the sound they planned in long discussions while they were out to sea (here’s a sample). They are obviously still excited to be in each other’s presence, and you can feel that in the way they finish each other’s sentences and make fabulously detailed plans together. So, in that spirit, on a beautiful Friday in Spring, since we’ve already had an open thread of bitching, here’s an open thread of love.
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debit
Oh, screw you and your message of love, mistermix. Can’t you see we have important shaming to do?
Sarah Proud and Tall
I’m all for a group hug.
Adele – Set Fire to the Rain (Live from the Tabernacle, London, 24 January 2011)
Comrade Mary
I remember listening to that interview, and this old punk found herself actually liking a band that was both preppie and hipster. That’s an accomplishment.
Another earworm courtesy of the CBC: Kevin Fox with Cliched Remains. Note the parallels to Costello, Wainwright and artists to be named later! Count all the deliberate cliches in the lyrics and win fabulous prizes!
Omnes Omnibus
Here’s your goddamn Message of Love.
ChrisS
I’ve been in a pessimistic funk going on about two months now. I love my significant other, my cats, grudgingly, the dog, too. Though he’s been a menace ever since he turned 1. And now he thinks that the vegetable garden is his play area.
Omnes Omnibus
@Comrade Mary:
Talking Heads.
p.a.
Where does John Cole post now-a-days? Bit of a crank, but I used to enjoy his take on things ;-)
Or did Rosie finally cause his head to go ‘Scanners’…
Scott P.
Yeah, well, I fell in love once, and the woman I wanted to marry declined, moved to Europe, and yesterday married another bloke, so this is not the easiest thing to watch right now.
piratedan
keeping in the spirit of things….
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1jbri_pretenders-message-of-love_music
Mork -- Never Mindy
Will someone catch me up on why E.D. doesn’t post here no more?
fastandsloppy
Yesterday was the 25th year anniversary of the day I first kissed the future Mrs. Fastandsloppy. I’ve loved her from the moment I first saw her and I’ve never stopped.
Omnes Omnibus
@piratedan: You’re late.
WereBear
@Scott P.: That sucks, but you must give up that torch.
Once you drop it… there is then space for the Universe to send you another one.
piratedan
@Omnes Omnibus: but different, took a damn long time to find the actual video ;-)
Zam
I met my girlfriend in Philosophy.
Comrade Mary
@Omnes Omnibus: OK, fine. So there’s a precedent.
Violet
@Scott P.:
That sucks. Love sucks sometimes.
WereBear is right, though. Think of it as being on the flying trapeze. You have to let go of the trapeze to get caught on the other side. Letting go takes courage.
Cat Lady
@Sarah Proud and Tall:
Love, loVE, LOVE Adele!
This song of hers is a the opposite of a love song – it’s a gigantic FU song. Love it!
Suffern ACE
@Cat Lady: You know, a good list of FU songs worth listening to might help Scott P get over his misery a little faster. But as a love thread, I don’t know if it would be appropriate to fill the thread up with FU songs.
ChrisS
@WereBear:
Concur.
I had the love my life break my heart. Three years later, she married the bozo that cheated on her and eventually dumped her because she went to grad school in DC and didn’t stay in NYC with him per his wishes.
Then I met my beloved and can’t imagine a different life.
Aardvark Cheeselog
I think some BJ-er should design an updated version of this for 2012. The Lesser of Two Evils, or something.
Mark S.
The People have spoken: Only 19% favor raising the debt ceiling. Part of me says let it burn. It will be a very instructive crash course on, well, the mother of all crashes.
piratedan
well my best FU song, i.e. the one where I played it over and over for like 12 hours straight in order to get over the image of her doing a tonsillectomy on another fella, is this one….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1xR8PYDqMg&feature=related
or even this one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n03g8nsaBro
Omnes Omnibus
@Comrade Mary: No need to take it that way. Jeez.
Cat Lady
@Suffern ACE:
You gotta go through the FUs to find the one on the other side. It worked for Adele. Of course it helps if you’re awesome and can sing about it like her and get the last laugh.
p.a.
@Mork — Never Mindy: Said he was spread too thin. Possibly too thin skinned. Focusing a lot on education policy now, and still at Ordinary Gentlemen, I believe.
Bob
Another new band, Belle Brigade
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Br5cbrZpLs
David Brooks (not that one)
August 29, 1968, I was standing in the arena at a Promenade Concert in the Royal Albert Hall, during my marathon of 52 out of the 62 concerts in 8 weeks. Soviet State Symphony Orchestra (thereby hangs another tale), Brahms 4th inter alia, and a shy young girl in an Alice band, whom I had seen before, next to me. As we stood up for the second half, I gave her my hand, and didn’t let it go. I still haven’t. We married the month after I graduated in 1971, in the College Chapel. Three children, one emigration to the US, some ups and downs admittedly, but August 29, 2008, found us back at the Proms. This time we paid for seats, and I wore the horrible orange shirt I was wearing that day. And it was the coals-to-Newcastle New York bloody Philharmonic, sleepwalking through the Rite of Spring, but hey.
Still my best friend, and still going together to symphony concerts and operas.
Can I say something cynical please? Oh, yes, we both reject the broccoli mandate.
Gina
@Scott P.: Just fell in love once? Oh honey, you need to get back out there and fall and fall again. It builds stamina.
Mark D
Thanks for this thread. We need some more happy happy joy joy around … well, everywhere.
I gotta admit that I never, ever, EVER believed in “soul mates” or such claptrap.
That was until, while in college, I met not just my soul mate, but my best friend. (I mean, really, she loves football, can cook like a professional chef, encourages me to play in a blues band that’s below average at best and hang out with friends to watch sports, and just … kicks ass in so many ways. Of course, I clean bathrooms and kitchens, and do the laundry, so …)
We celebrated 17 years of friendship in Feb., and will celebrate our 11th wedding anniversary on the 27th.
:-D
Again, thanks for the happy thread!
R-Jud
An ex of mine was recently diagnosed with cancer. I got in touch with him last night to say I had heard the news and to see how he is holding up. He very unexpectedly declared that he had never stopped loving me and that he missed me “every day and every night”.
While I’m glad he got that off his chest, I’m a little baffled, not least because it’s been seven years since we were together, and he broke up with me.
I didn’t quite know what I could say in reply to that, other than “wow”, which seemed sort of… inadequate? Cruel? I already felt bad for the guy on account of his illness. Now I feel even worse.
Just Some Fuckhead
Me and one of my girlfriends are exactly the same way. When we are together, we simply delight each other, riff off of each other, finish each other’s sentences, compete to make the same jokes, laugh until we cry, etc.
It’s the perfect antidote to 23 years of marriage.
Comrade Mary
@Omnes Omnibus: Whaaat? You mean you weren’t reading my mind and that you wrote that comment knowing full well that I was a HUGE Heads fan in my teens, bought the bootlegs, read the photo-illustrated comics with David Byrne in some teen rock magazine, and was front row for their new Afro-fusion line-up at the Toronto Heatwave Festival in 1980?
You really weren’t reading my mind?
We aren’t psychically connected?
Oh.
(EDIT: I must now note that your handle, like the cake, is a lie.)
artem1s
here’s a nice piece on how interests are working together in Ohio to thwart King John.
http://www.thenation.com/article/160617/ohio-new-kind-battleground
Gina
@R-Jud: Well, at least you didn’t shriek “What the HELL??”. Cuz I probably would have. Which is why it’s a good thing I don’t keep in touch with my exes, I guess.
David Brooks (not that one)
@David Brooks (not that one): Just remembered I have a pic of the old farts.
R-Jud
@Just Some Fuckhead: A little Fuckhead makes the day so much brighter.
@Gina:
I’m torn between the urge to be compassionate to a sick man and the urge to lose his phone number forever (again).
Mr. Jud, FWIW, feels bad for the guy, too.
RalfW
Speaking of love, it looks like maybe Minnesotans are in favor of it. New poll out today says 55% oppose an anti-gay marriage amendment, and only 39% support it.
I feel like I might live in a sane, loving state after all. But we do have 18 months for the haters to spoil things….
Cris (without an H)
I’ll send you a love letter. Straight from my heart, fucker. You know what a love letter is?
Yutsano
@R-Jud: This is exhibit A of why I never keep in touch with my exes. And it couldn’t hurt to say to him that there was a reason why things ended, but thank you for being honest. And make it clear that things are different now and you have moved into another phase of your life. Then show cute videos of Bean. You can set the boundaries without being too rough here.
Brachiator
Great interview, but my Cynic Fu is stronger.
My models for creative soul mates are Lennon McCartney, the Glimmer Twins (Mick Jagger and Keith Richards), Duke Ellington and Billy Strayhorn, and the incomparable match of Charlie Parker and Dizzy Gillespie. As far as I know, they never babbled on about wanting to go sailing together.
But here’s how Diz once wonderfully described his relationship with Bird: “We had a very close relationship, Bird and me — he was the other side of my heartbeat.”
The other side of my heartbeat is a woman I’ve known since junior high school. We once tried a brief romance, but that was a huge disaster. Fortunately, the friendship was stronger than that. And continues to be.
And for love in all it’s variations, here’s a tune: Otis Redding That’s How Strong My Love Is
and another, Jose Feliciano’s version of Lennon/McCartney’s In My Life
R-Jud
@Yutsano: In retrospect, this is the approach I would’ve gone with had I not been so thrown by his saying that.
And I’d show cute videos of Bean, but I’m pretty sure her head is rotating through 360 degrees right now upstairs, judging by the screaming.
Being put to bed is an injustice, you know.
John Weiss
My wife and I saw one another across a crowded room and the rest is thirty years of history.