They did it in NY.
This might be the proverbial break in the dam, if you will, and I bet more states will follow. Sure, there will be vicious pushback, and I suspect the usual suspects will ratchet up the gay bashing in the short term, but they are losing this war and they know it. One of the paradoxes of a move forward like this is that in the short term, despite this big victory for gay right in NY, things will probably get uglier for gays for the next couple of months. I wouldn’t be surprised to see vicious anti-gay legislation advanced in safe red states over the next few months.
But I think this really is a big deal, a tipping point, if you will. One of the most vexing things for gays, I imagine, is Obama’s constantly “evolving” position on gay marriage. I don’t for one minute think he is actually opposed to gay marriage, but is waiting for the moment when he can say “Look, the public clearly supports this, and I have changed my mind, etc. blah blah blah.” That’s just how he operates. He’s for permanent change, not pyrrhic victories. DADT didn’t end simply because of strong leadership by Obama, but because the public dragged our elected elites across the finish line.
It’s a good day for America. I’m heading off to a wedding this evening to see two good friends tie the knot. It’s nice to know that at least in NY and several other states, we are no longer making some silly judgment that my friend’s heterosexual love is somehow more real or more legitimate than the love gays and lesbians have for each other in the Empire State. It’s slow going, and there will be rocky spots ahead, but last night was a great victory in a long, hard-fought war for equality for all Americans.