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You are here: Home / Civil Rights / Women's Rights / Women's Rights Are Human Rights / Late Night Horrorshow: Beware the ‘Gentle Loner’…

Late Night Horrorshow: Beware the ‘Gentle Loner’…

by Anne Laurie|  December 1, 201512:44 am| 31 Comments

This post is in: Women's Rights Are Human Rights, Seriously

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Worth tweeting this again https://t.co/nT1LT4qNV5 pic.twitter.com/jSTd3Dhiqk

— Melissa Jeltsen (@quasimado) November 29, 2015

From that NYTimes article, “To Stop Violence, Start at Home“:

… A recent study found that more than half of the 110 mass shootings in the United States between January 2009 and July 2014 included the murder of a current or former spouse, an intimate partner or a family member. Everytown for Gun Safety, the group that released the study, found a “noteworthy connection between mass-shooting incidents and domestic or family violence.”

This connection is not limited to mass shootings. An analysis of the criminal justice history of hundreds of thousands of offenders in Washington State suggests that a felony domestic violence conviction is the single greatest predictor of future violent crime among men…

Men who commit violence rehearse and perfect it against their families first. Women and children are target practice, and the home is the training ground for these men’s later actions….

Men commit violence because they can, because it’s “tradition”, because the society they move in gives them permission to commit violence. The South Carolina Post and Courier, reporting on former local Robert Dear:

The man accused of opening fire Friday in a Colorado Springs Planned Parenthood was charged with rape in North Charleston more than 20 years ago, according to police reports…

A woman who worked at Citadel Mall reported to North Charleston police that Dear had asked her out numerous times and she always refused, saying that she was married, according to a police report. Dear allegedly continued to call her at work and home about two to three times per day telling her that he wanted to see her.

On Nov. 29, 1992, Dear showed up at the woman’s house while she attempted to take out the trash, according to the police report.

“The suspect then allegedly put a knife to the victim’s neck and forced her back inside her residence,” the report states. “The suspect then allegedly forced the victim down into the couch, struck her in the mouth with his fist, and then sexually assaulted her.” …

Dear has a history of arrests in South Carolina out of Colleton and Beaufort counties, records show. A background search completed by The Post and Courier found that Dear was arrested in 2003 on a cruelty to animals charge but was found not guilty in 2004. He was charged under the state’s Peeping Tom law in 2002 but that charge, too, was later dismissed, according to a background search.

In 1997, Dear’s then-wife reported that her husband assaulted her, according to incident reports released Saturday by the Colleton County Sheriff’s Office. She declined at the time to file charges against Dear…

His second wife, Mescher, described Dear in divorce papers filed in 1993 as a controlling, abusive, womanizing man who liked to gamble but was tight with his cash when it came to supporting his family. She stated that he threw her around the room by her hair during one argument and beat her head on the floor. She also said in a sworn affidavit that Dear “erupts into fury in a matter of seconds,” and she “lived in fear and dread of his emotional and physical abuse.”

“He claims to be a Christian and is extremely evangelistic, but does not follow the Bible in his actions,” Mescher stated in the affidavit. “He says that as long as he believes he will be saved, he can do whatever he pleases. He is obsessed with the world coming to an end.” …

Hey, men abusing “their” women and other chattel is very biblical, for some values of “conservative Christianity”. Just another gentle loner!

The FBI warned of Planned Parenthood attacks two months ago because of the fake videos.

— daveanthony (@daveanthony) November 28, 2015

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— Simon Maloy (@SimonMaloy) November 28, 2015

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  1. 1.

    redshirt

    December 1, 2015 at 12:50 am

    Literally, if you wanted to truly filter for crime, select Male as your first filter and then anything else is just fine tuning.

    Men are responsible for what, 98.5% of all violence and death in this world?

  2. 2.

    Mike J

    December 1, 2015 at 12:56 am

    Faruk Ateş ‏@KuraFire 8h8 hours ago

    More terrorists have come from North & South Carolina than all of the Middle East combined.

  3. 3.

    Mnemosyne (tablet)

    December 1, 2015 at 12:56 am

    I’m going to leave something a little more uplifting here for rikyrah to see in the morning — some of her hometown kids from Curie High School doing a cover version of “Wait For It.”

  4. 4.

    Mnemosyne (tablet)

    December 1, 2015 at 1:03 am

    Okay, back on topic — let’s not pretend that this is some inevitable process that can’t be avoided. One of the reasons my nephew was sent to a psychiatric boarding school for his last two years of high school was that he had learned from his violent father that you get people to do what you want by pushing them around. He hadn’t quite escalated to beating people up like he’d seen his dad do to his mom, but he was going down that road even though consciously he didn’t want to.

    And you know what? Two years of intensive therapy, medication, and support gave him the tools he needed so he doesn’t do that anymore. He talks it out, or he goes for a walk, or he talks to his therapist. He had a problem and he was able to get the help he needed for it. But way too many boys and young men in similar situations never get that help.

  5. 5.

    karen marie

    December 1, 2015 at 1:07 am

    @Mnemosyne (tablet): I am in the middle of transcribing a police interview of a 22-year-old male defendant who “accidentally” killed a woman (with his fists, at least in part) he met only hours earlier. He grew up in a home with an abusive father, then stepfather.

  6. 6.

    Mnemosyne (tablet)

    December 1, 2015 at 1:16 am

    @karen marie:

    My nephew has pretty severe ADHD (and the accompanying impulsiveness) and is bipolar — not incidentally, just like his dad, who only got properly diagnosed a few years ago since he’d spent most of his adult life in prison and no one bothered to screen him.

    So I wouldn’t be surprised if the defendant has major undiagnosed mental health issues in addition to his background of abuse. There’s a reason they call it a cycle.

  7. 7.

    karen marie

    December 1, 2015 at 1:27 am

    @Mnemosyne (tablet): I would suggest many, if not all, of this defendant’s mental health issues were caused by, not in addition to the abuse he experienced, directly and indirectly. Medical science is finally copping to the idea that many mental illnesses are caused by emotional stresses, chemical imbalances are a symptom, not a cause. Like PTSD, we’re not born depressed and anxious, but childhood abuse can get that started early, and that is the hardest to ameliorate. It definitely fucked up my life but good.

  8. 8.

    piratedan7

    December 1, 2015 at 1:29 am

    something a bit different….

  9. 9.

    TheMightyTrowel

    December 1, 2015 at 1:30 am

    Way ot… on my way to Sydney for interview for a major fellowship. Fingers crossed as it would buy out my teaching for three years. Please think happy thoughts for the next 24 hr or so.

  10. 10.

    SiubhanDuinne

    December 1, 2015 at 1:36 am

    @TheMightyTrowel:

    Happy thoughts winging their way to the Antipodes! When will you learn their decision?

  11. 11.

    TheMightyTrowel

    December 1, 2015 at 1:37 am

    @SiubhanDuinne: no clue. Next week maybe? They’re a little disorganized.

    Eta: thanks, also too.

  12. 12.

    Ruckus

    December 1, 2015 at 1:41 am

    @karen marie:
    And this makes some sense. We are after all just chemical factories, ones with a lot of variables in the process. Stress can affect so many of the systems that it really is amazing that medicine is taking this long to get around to figuring this sort of stuff out. Of course it will take lots of time to figure out how to medicate this rather than find the root causes, poverty, violence, etc. and work on those. I worked at a mental health center decades ago as a counselor and I’d say a large portion of my clients had stress as a factor in their lives. And I’ve been there myself. The tools aren’t that hard to understand and use if learned early and the stress of a young life isn’t overwhelmed by a crappy existence, especially of poverty and violence. (One thing that pisses me off is that conservatives want so many people to live crappy lives because they just seem to refuse to see any connection between their policies and the problems they want to blame everyone else for, fucking assholes)
    I’ve only listed two causes of stress, poverty and violence but those are two that seem to be pretty common issues among those who turn to violence to solve their problems.

  13. 13.

    ? Martin

    December 1, 2015 at 2:01 am

    “The suspect then allegedly put a knife to the victim’s neck and forced her back inside her residence,” the report states. “The suspect then allegedly forced the victim down into the couch, struck her in the mouth with his fist, and then sexually assaulted her.”

    So typical of a transgendered liberal activist.

  14. 14.

    cokane

    December 1, 2015 at 2:25 am

    @redshirt: Men are also something like 70-80 percent of homicide victims depending on the year, just saying

  15. 15.

    cokane

    December 1, 2015 at 2:28 am

    @Mike J: this really isn’t true. unless only killing americans counts as terrorism in ur book

  16. 16.

    Skippy-san

    December 1, 2015 at 2:53 am

    Breitbart is still dead. His heirs however, have taken the scum he started and amplified it on steroids. The organization needs to be sued out of existence for slander and incitement. Sadly-it won’t happen.

  17. 17.

    BillinGlendaleCA

    December 1, 2015 at 3:11 am

    @Mnemosyne (tablet): I wouldn’t discount the role of intense religiosity.

  18. 18.

    David Koch

    December 1, 2015 at 3:24 am

    @? Martin: an Independent, no less.

  19. 19.

    mai naem mobile

    December 1, 2015 at 3:33 am

    I’m sure Fox Nooz pundits are going to be insisting that Ted Cruz,Ben Carson and the Huckster call this guy a Christian terrorist. How they just will not call him a Christian terrahrist…why can’t they just spit out the term Christian terrahrist…right????

  20. 20.

    low-tech cyclist

    December 1, 2015 at 8:22 am

    And of course, a guy with a history like Dear’s should have a massive wall of laws in between him and the faintest hope of getting hold of a gun. But the NRA will fight for the right of his kind to be well armed. Gotta keep crowdsourcing that right-wing terrorism, you know.

  21. 21.

    sharl

    December 1, 2015 at 9:18 am

    I’m wondering just how many protesters outside of family planning clinics are like Mr. King here:

    april brucker @aprilbrucker

    @ClinicEscort Most of the protesters are men. Hmmm Ironic much? #deargod #rightwingmadness #celebratemyright2choose
    11:10 AM – 2 Aug 2014

    ~

    Gabriel Alan King
    ‏@GabrielAlanKing @aprilbrucker @ClinicEscort Men who are not in PRISON for paying massive child support to cheating bitches ?
    2:29 PM – 3 Aug 2015

    ~
    Hmm, I’m not detecting much of a concern about fetuses in that tweet by Mr. King. But rage against women cheating bitches? Oh yeah, that post is radioactive with that kind of rage.

    Say you were angry about a woman who had been in your life, then you just decided to be angry about everyone in that entire gender. Furthermore, say you were sufficiently self-aware that such generalized rage wasn’t “a good look”. Well, there’s a solution to this conundrum: protest outside a family planning clinic! There are usually lots of women there, so it’s a great place to get your rage against women on, but you can do it while presenting yourself as a pro-life champion! What a great way to get your rage on champion the pro-life movement by bullying women protesting baby killing.

  22. 22.

    What Have the Romans Ever Done for Us?

    December 1, 2015 at 9:50 am

    Shorter Breitbart: We do the stereotyping. We can’t let them stereotype us!

  23. 23.

    Capri

    December 1, 2015 at 9:52 am

    You can take a step further back from domestic violence. Many violent offenders get their start abusing and killing animals. In far too many places, this is not taken seriously.

    In my neck of the woods, animal control officers and others are incredibly frustrated because they can document felony animal abuse and the local prosecutor will not file charges or follow through.

  24. 24.

    Stella B

    December 1, 2015 at 10:06 am

    @sharl: i used to drive to work past a PP (where no abortions were performed). As I sat in the turn lane waiting to get onto the freeway, I would look at the protesters. Sometimes a woman or two would join them.

  25. 25.

    Paul in KY

    December 1, 2015 at 10:20 am

    @redshirt: Come on now, I think it is only 94.5%. Jeezus…

  26. 26.

    Paul in KY

    December 1, 2015 at 10:22 am

    @TheMightyTrowel: Best wishes! Be confident!

  27. 27.

    Paul in KY

    December 1, 2015 at 10:23 am

    @? Martin: That’s how they get their acolytes, dontchaknow.

  28. 28.

    Althea

    December 1, 2015 at 10:24 am

    Anti-abortion groups target IUDs

  29. 29.

    Mnemosyne (tablet)

    December 1, 2015 at 11:19 am

    @karen marie:

    There seems to be a relatively new PTSD diagnosis that some childhood abuse survivors are getting called C-PTSD. Basically, it’s PTSD after captivity, which used to be applied only to people who were held as hostages, but it’s now being looked at for survivors of childhood abuse, most of whom were about as able to escape their abusers as people being held hostage. (I’ve been reading Reddit’s Raised By Narcissists board to try and help my nieces with a narcissistic mother, so that’s where I heard of it.)

    @BillinGlendaleCA:

    Religiosity doesn’t help, especially when mental illness is in the equation, but frankly I’ve heard about abusers from all sides of the political spectrum and every religion, including atheists. Abusers will use whatever tools they have at hand, and if religion is a useful tool, they’ll use it.

  30. 30.

    Luthe

    December 1, 2015 at 11:43 am

    @low-tech cyclist: Reading this, I think in addition to criminal background checks to purchase a gun, there should also be a short one-on-one interview with a woman (preferably a psychologist, but not required). Because women learn from when they are very young how to spot the creeps, the violent, and the abusers. It’s a survival mechanism.

  31. 31.

    Citizen_X

    December 1, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    this weekend is being used by the DC Media and the Democrats and the White House to coordinate attacks that will have one goal in mind: to marginalize and silence pro-life voices.

    Good, because you’re a bunch of lying, threat-spewing terrorism supporters.

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