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Guest Post: Amir Khalid’s Letter to His Beloved Cat, Bianca

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May we all have as purposeful a life, and be remembered with such affection, as Bianca.

My dear girl cat Bianca:

You passed away on the 4th December 2020, lying next to me in bed. It is now the 16th. I am still feeling your absence, still shedding tears for you.

I feel blessed and grateful that you chose me as your human 16 years ago, when you were just a little black kitten. Up to then, we’d had only a nodding acquaintance. I’d see you on my way to work. I’d greet you, or you’d greet me, then we’d have a friendly moment together and you let me pet you.

What drew you to me? You and I never quite got around to having that conversation. Anyway, you decided to follow me home a week after Mak died. A friend suggested to me that you were she, her maternal spirit somehow come back to watch over me. I’m keeping an open mind on that.

Your name – that was a bit of contrarian whimsy on my part.

I know people who spend thousands to get a pedigree white Persian cat, and then they stick it in a cage so it won’t get stolen. I don’t understand that. Being caged is no life for a cat. A cat wants to be out and about, exploring, playing, finding comfortable places to sit, surveying her realm, getting involved with her people. If I had kept you in a cage, you wouldn’t have had that. I wouldn’t have had your love and affection, or the chance to show you my love and affection.

You had your own way to show affection. I will never forget the dead squirrel you so proudly showed me that time, before you left it at my feet. You would sit by me, waiting patiently for my attention while I was distracted — until you got fed up of waiting and dug your claws into my shin. That was all my fault, and I’m sorry.

You were never a kneader, it wasn’t your style. But you gave me a lifetime’s worth of kitty kisses and tongue baths and head rubs. It started when you were a kitten: as I lay in bed at night, you’d stand on my chest and lick my face all over. That was our bedtime ritual. I had to block you from licking my ears; I’m ticklish there. Your tongue was really raspy; but that was you loving me, so it was all good. Over the years, I’ve come to feel the roughness of your tongue as a comfort.

I tried to give back to you. Holding you, kissing you, giving you scritches behind the ears, belly rubs when you were okay with them, head rubs done human style. I hope me doing these things comforted you as much as it comforted me. I regret that I never once gave you a tongue bath.

You were the talkative kind of cat, and we had some good conversations together. You liked to wake me up early in the morning with your meowing, and that was good for me — even though I’m not a morning person, and I sometimes found myself wishing you wouldn’t.

Above all, I miss your presence, you just being here sharing this space with me. I still watch where I put my feet, where my legs are in bed, so that I don’t bump into you. I can tell your voice apart from that of any other cat; I still listen for it. I still look around the place for you. When I remember that I’m not going to see or hear or feel you anymore, I am bereft.

The day will never come when I don’t miss you anymore. I am keeping you here in my heart. I am, and ever shall be,

Your human

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  3. 3.

    JPL

    Amir,  I so sorry for your loss, and you will always miss her.    You were so lucky that she followed you home, and I’m a big believer that animals choose you

    Bianca did a good job with her selection.

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    Another Scott

    A wonderful tribute, Amir. Thanks for letting us share it.

    Condolences to you.

    Best wishes,
    Scott.

  8. 8.

    craigie

    That’s really spectacular. I’m sure that in heaven, cats can read, so she is grateful for your thoughts even now.

  9. 9.

    hedgehog mobile

    Beautiful tribute to a loving cat.  Thank you for sharing her with us, Amir.  I grieve with you.

  10. 10.

    trollhattan

    Bianca clearly picked the right hooman. My thoughts are with you both, Amir. Thanks for your lovely remembrance.

  11. 11.

    Rob Lll

    So sorry for your loss, Amir. Lovely tribute to an obviously very special cat. May your happy memories of her always comfort you.

  13. 13.

    SiubhanDuinne

    That is absolutely beautiful, Amir. Touching throughout, and funny (I regret that I never once gave you a tongue bath, LOL).

    You said (ETA: in an earlier thread) that you buried her beneath the papaya tree in your back yard. I’m not sure when the next season for fruit-bearing comes around, but when it does I hope the papayas you consume will taste a little sweeter for the Bianca they bring to your tongue.

  14. 14.

    Miss Bianca

    Aww, little Bianca. I will so much miss hearing about her. And Steep’s Housecat.

    Funny how attached I have become to the pets of people I only know in cyberspace. But so it goes here at Balloon Juice.

    RIP, Bianca, under your papaya tree.

  15. 15.

    CapnMubbers

    Dear Amir, thank you for sharing your loving relationship with Bianca and some of her quirks and preferences. What a beautiful tribute to a precious life.

  16. 16.

    Kristine

    My condolences. Bianca was a lovely girl.

    I admit, however, that I did burst out laughing a couple of times as I read. The squirrel ? and the leg-gouging. I hope you smile at those memories as well.

  20. 20.

    ProfDamatu

    What a beautiful tribute! At the risk of being cliched, they do leave paw prints on our hearts.

  21. 21.

    Blackcatsrule

    I am so grateful that you wrote this.  What a meaningful, heartfelt tribute.  Did get a smile about the face licking.  I thought I was weird for wanting to lick my kitty’s face on occasion; glad I’m not the only one.

    Also thanks to Watergirl and Anne Laurie.

  22. 22.

    banditqueen

    Bianca’s memory will always be a blessing–it’s amazing how we all have perfect cats (or other pet of choice).

  23. 23.

    Amir Khalid

    @banditqueen:

    It’s really not amazing, when you think about it: every cat has their own way of perfection.

    ETA: I should say, every pet has their own way of perfection.

  25. 25.

    H.E.Wolf

    Thank you, dear Amir, for sharing your beautiful tribute to Bianca with us.

    “Death is but crossing the world, as friends do the seas; we live in one another still.” – Wm. Penn, 1600s

  27. 27.

    SFBayAreaGal

    Dear Amir, thank you for sharing your beautiful memories and love for Bianca. The pawprints our cats leave on our hearts can never be erased.

    May you find comfort in knowing Bianca chose you to be her human.

  29. 29.

    Mary G

    I’m teary-eyed and sniffling. You were extremely lucky to be chosen by Bianca, and this letter is a lovely remembrance of her. I hope it helped you with your grief, but it’s still very fresh. I’m glad you are letting yourself feel the pain. It takes as long as it takes.

  31. 31.

    Mj_Oregon

    So very sorry she is gone, Amir.  It’s such an honor when a cat chooses us to be their human.  And while I’ve loved so many cats over my 73 years, there was one I was picturing as I read your beautiful letter.  Then there were the tears again even after seven years.

    Bianca knew what she was doing when she followed you home.  What wonderful relationship you had with each other.

  32. 32.

    Just One More Canuck

    What a beautiful letter – I need to go find Elsa the wonder nut and give her a snuggle

  33. 33.

    zhena gogolia

    So beautiful.

    I regret that I never once gave you a tongue bath.

    I tried that — they don’t like it. Our tongues don’t have the right texture. They like our hands.

  36. 36.

    Bex

    My dear human Amir

    I knew about all your friends in the other space, and that you talked about me to them.  I loved that you did that and would secretly enjoy the stories you told about me.  I am in yet another space that we are sharing now, the place where sorrow lives.  They tell me here that this place is not forever and gave me a glimpse of the forever that is really is forever.  We will meet again there.

    Bianca

  38. 38.

    Mike in Oly

    This brought me to tears. Such a beautiful letter and sentiment. We lost our Oliver a year ago this month and he has been on my mind a lot lately. I miss him so much. So glad you had a good long life with your girl. Even tho it is never long enough.

  44. 44.

    RoonieRoo

    Thank you for sharing with us Amir.  I lost my heart dog in January and, oddly, working through it with others helps.  I really appreciate that you let us share this with you.

  49. 49.

    Emma from FL

    I have been needing a good cleansing cry for months. Someone once told me that there is a place between death and Heaven where our beloved companions wait for us until it’s our turn to take the final walk. They will not let us go alone. Bianca is there waiting patiently — well, probably terrorizing the squirrels but a cat is a cat even in the afterlife.

  52. 52.

    CaseyL

    What a lovely tribute. Bianca was a Cat In Full, “be[ing] out and about, exploring, playing, finding comfortable places to sit, surveying her realm.”   You gave her a wonderful life, and were worthy of the squirrel she gave you.  Tried to give you.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  53. 53.

    Citizen Scientist

    Awww, what a great letter Amir.  Condolences and I’m glad that you had each other for so long.  Thanks for sharing with the jackals.  Peace be with you both. ✌️

  59. 59.

    MoCA Ace

    Thank you for the lovely tribute.  You were fortunate to have Bianca in your life and your relationship with her says more about your humanity than all of your many comments/posts.

  61. 61.

    Sure Lurkalot

    You really were perfect for each other and out of all paths that cross, yours seemed a destined intersection.

  63. 63.

    seefleur

    Amir – my sincerest condolences from a lurker here. Bianca obviously had impeccable standards in picking her human. As long as she lives in your heart, she’s still likely to send you the occasional shin pinch and you may feel a bump from her as you drift off to sleep. Whether it’s for-real, or just a very solid memory, it’s comforting. Since my sweet kitty Mitch (he was the grampa/mentor our other rescue kittens over the years) left us over 6 years ago, every so often I will wake up to him chewing on my hair, or at least to that sensation (and the one spot that he liked to chew on has on occasion been slightly damp – it felt that way to me). Once a cat has adopted you, they really don’t leave your heart or your memory. Hugs (in a pandemic way) to you – from a total stranger.

  64. 64.

    Danielx

    A lovely and wonderful tribute.

    I had to get Zoey the Senior/Boss Cat put down on Monday and then brought her home and buried her wrapped in her favorite blanket with her favorite stuffed mouse. My napping buddy extraordinaire for fifteen years…still can’t think of her without tearing up. She was sitting on the daughter unit’s lap Sunday night. I dropped her off at 8 on Monday, vet called back at 11:30 with diagnosis of liver cancer ,and she was so happy to see me when I got back to vet at 3 to be with her at the end.

    Still feel like a murderer.

  68. 68.

    FelonyGovt

    Amir, that’s so beautiful. Her memory will be with you forever. Bianca was very lucky to have you as her human.

  71. 71.

    Kattails

    Thank you for sharing that with us, it was lovely.  That is a hole in your life that will not be easy or quick to fill. We’ll keep you both in our thoughts.

    “There are two means of refuge from the misery of life–music and cats.” -Albert Schweitzer

  72. 72.

    raven

    @Eunicecycle: I sure did the first time I saw it. She was still with us but we knew time was short. Now we are in the same place with Bohdi but we are thankful he’s hanging in there at 16.

  73. 73.

    feebog

    That’s some beautiful writing.  Sorry for your loss Amir, 16 years is a good long time, and I hope you have many many fond memories.

  78. 78.

    Kattails

    @Danielx: I have been wondering how you were doing, after your note to us the other day.  I’ve had some send-offs that were easier and some really hard; and we can only do our loving best for them under whatever conditions we find. Don’t be hard on yourself, Zoey does not need that of you.

  81. 81.

    Ruckus

    Amir, a beautiful tribute to Bianca.

    They visit us for a short time and become our families. They share our space, or sometimes we share the space they allow us to have. Still they make life better, as in Bianca’s case, far better. They ask for little and we give gladly because they really do become friends, in so many ways. We can’t talk with them but we still learn to communicate with each other. They make life far more worth living and we miss them something terrible when they leave.

  83. 83.

    HinTN

    @raven: It’ll be two weeks this Saturday that Lightning and his people knew it was time. I did just sit there on the floor and scratch his ears and rub his neck. It does hurt but we know going in that we’ll probably outlive them. Thank you fur that.

    And thank you, Amir, for sharing that sweet, funny, warm remembrance.

    Sometimes I don’t know where I’d be if I hadn’t found this online group of [snarling jackals].

  84. 84.

    Tazj

    That’s a wonderful tribute to Bianca. ?You gave her a happy life, and she was a loving presence in yours.

  88. 88.

    raven

    @HinTN: I think it’s important to recognize that from the beginning but not everyone can. My old man would not get a dog for years and, when he got Molly, he was totally obsessed. I mark losing her as the beginning of the end for him. They are buried together in the Phoenix National Veterans Cemetery but I wish it hadn’t hurt him like it did.

  89. 89.

    Yutsano

    @Amir Khalid: Your words do her justice. I know she is waiting for you in the next existence, along with Mak. And I’m thinking they’re lining up a new kitten/cat to find you soon.

  96. 96.

    Barbara

    @Danielx: Whether for humans or animals, it’s often hard to know what to wish for when it comes to dying.  The loss will hurt no matter how it happens, but it’s better that there was less suffering involved.

    Condolences to you and to Amir.  It’s so hard to lose a beloved four legged friend.

  98. 98.

    cckids

    @Emma from FL: Someone once told me that there is a place between death and Heaven where our beloved companions wait for us until it’s our turn to take the final walk. They will not let us go alone.

    I’m reminded of a story I was told years ago, when I lost my first dog:

    A man died, and woke up on a road through the woods. Walking on, one by one, he found all the pets he’d loved throughout his life; after joyous greetings, they walked on together, reveling in being in each other’s company again. They came to a huge golden and crystal gate, closed tight, with an ornate podium outside. The man asked the being at the podium, “What is this place?”

    “This is heaven! You can go in whenever you choose.”

    “Can my animals come along? We’ve been separated a long time; I was so relieved they were here waiting for me.”

    “Oh no, I’m sorry, Heaven is for humans only, they’ll have to stay outside. The woods are beautiful, and the weather is always good. They will be safe and well.”

    The man thought a bit, then said, “I think we’ll spend some more time together first”, and he and his pets walked on.

    Further down the road, they came upon a plain wooden fence, with a rose trellis arch open in the middle. There was an old woman sitting in a rocking chair, drinking lemonade, and a water pump with bowls underneath for the animals. She called out “Welcome! It’s wonderful to see you!”

    The man asked “What is this place?” and she answered “Why, this is Heaven, come in, all of you!”

    He said, “But the place down the road with the beautiful fancy gate; they said that was heaven.”  She said “No, that is hell”.

    He was shocked. “Doesn’t it make you angry that they’re misleading people that way?”

    She laughed and said, “No, not really. We figure it just weeds out the people who’d leave their best friends behind.”

    It’s long and corny, but I approve of the sentiment. If our pets can’t be there, how could it possibly be heaven?

    Amir, my deepest sympathies. Bianca seems to have been lovely, lively and a wonderful companion of the heart.

  100. 100.

    Gin & Tonic

    @Barbara:

    Whether for humans or animals, it’s often hard to know what to wish for when it comes to dying

    Except with our animals it is accepted, normal and legal to end their suffering. With humans, you can’t, without going to jail.

  101. 101.

    Zelma

    Amir,  a lovely tribute.  We know we have to let them go, but we always have them in our hearts.  I still see Simmons out of the side of my eyes all the tie.

    DanielX, you did the right thing which doesn’t make the pain any less.  They don’t have any way to tell us when they are in pain so it is up to us to take care of them.

    Raven, still crying at that cartoon.  So true.

  102. 102.

    TomatoQueen

    In the last month, Merlin has become a Compleat Cuddlepantz, with head bumps, face rubs, and ritualized demands for laptime, every morning from 9:10 to 9:30, when he moves off with a brrp? This morning his usually almost silent purr was cranked up nearly to three. All of this gives me hope for our future together. If I can do half as well as Amir did for Bianca…dusty in here.

  104. 104.

    Amir Khalid

    So many jackals who have lived through loving and losing a pet have come here to join me in mourning for Bianca. And to share their experiences, feelings, and wisdom in the Balloon Juice way. I’m grateful to all of you. You guys are a blessing.

  105. 105.

    Villago Delenda Est

    Amir, I grieve with you. When Mocha finally leaves this mortal coil, I’ll have much the same sorts of memories of her as you have with Bianca.

    Another cat might come along, but it won’t be the same. Charming and memorable in different ways, but not the same.

  106. 106.

    Ceci n est pas mon nym

    Beautiful letter, Amir. Thank you for letting us read it.

    Today I learned that there are squirrels in Malaysia. Albeit at least one less than there used to be.

    I hope you were properly appreciative of her gift. Humans always seem to fall short on that.

  108. 108.

    Mike S (Now with a Democratic Congressperson!)

    Losing a fur friend is hard, but the memories are sweet. Thank you for sharing yours.

  109. 109.

    susanna

    Thank you for sharing this.   As you sit with this pain, you experience the love as well.  Likely, that causes the pain.

    How fortunate Bianca and you were to find one another.  I thoroughly and completely absorbed this beautifully-written memoir.

  111. 111.

    ellie

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost so many pets and it never gets easier. In fact, it gets more difficult.

  114. 114.

    nclurker

    since this is about animals we love,i have a quandry.

    i helped get a pit mix freed from a abusive,neglected,and freezing conditions living outside.

    local animal control finally got the poor dog surrendered and delivered to the humane society.

    i have a rescue pit who loves people,but not so much other dogs.

    this dog needs love and a house to live in having never been inside one.

    do i go for it and adopt and accept the inevitable problems,or hope for a good person

    to do it?

    what say you.

  119. 119.

    Ohio Mom

    Lately I’ve had awful trouble getting on to this site. The page can’t finish loading, then it automatically reloads itself incompletely, repeatedly — sometimes I just give up and go elsewhere in blogtopia.

    But just now, it instantly loaded perfectly, and I got to read this perfect and beautiful tribute.

    It feels as if the universe knew I needed to read this. So moving, such beautiful writing. A wonderful reminder what we should all strive to make our lives about, unconditional love.

    You two were very lucky to have had one another. My deepest sympathies Amir on this terrible loss.

  120. 120.

    debbie

    @raven:

    I haven’t had a pet since the early 1970s, but that strip sends me right back to when I had to let her go and say goodbye.

  121. 121.

    Blackcatsrule

    @Danielx: Was this the kitty who was injured by a dog a while ago or am I remembering wrong? My condolences to you and your family, please don’t feel bad, I regret every day that we did not help our kitty sooner.

  122. 122.

    TomatoQueen

    @Laura Too:  Merlin greetings and once again many thanks to you. Himself is such a lovely shiny boy, and he’s never met a stranger. All’s well.

  123. 123.

    pat

    @nclurker:

    I’d let the rescue folks try to find a home before I’d upset your present companion and try to fix a possibly impossible and stressful situation.

  126. 126.

    The Fat White Duchess

    Thank you, Amir. What a lovely tribute to a lovely cat.

    We lost our Java two years ago, and that was the occasion for Toby to join the household–and I adore Toby but still miss Java, and occasionally imagine I see her tail whisking around the corner in my peripheral vision.  They never leave us completely…

  127. 127.

    Jay

    @nclurker:

    it’s difficult. There are ways to socialize your dog to other dogs, animals and humans. Much of it involves training yourself.

    The rescue pittie is an unknown. Many shelters would love to have you come by, spend time with the dog, help care for and socialize him/her.

    Based on what you learn, do and know, you will be able to decide if fostering, adopting him/her is the right choice.

  129. 129.

    Eljai

    Amir, your letter to Bianca is so touching.  It reminds me of how my cat Sparkle used to lie next to me in bed.  She passed away in 2008 and I still miss her, though my memories are comforting now.  Every now and then I swear I can feel her paws walking over me as I drift off to sleep.  Who knows…

  130. 130.

    beckya57

    ??? My Pirate will greet Bianca at the Bridge.  Scribbles, Bandit, Chicago and Rocky send their condolences.  They give us so much, and it’s so hard to say goodbye.

  132. 132.

    frosty

    Condolences, Amir. That was a lovely letter, it conveys how much she meant to you and how much a part of your life she was. What a wonderful companion.

  133. 133.

    Lyrebird

    @Amir Khalid: Thank you for sharing this elegant and heartfelt farewell to an elegant and clearly so-loveable kitty.

    Lot of folks going through losses these days without their usual means of getting support.  Lifting you up in my thoughts.

  134. 134.

    frosty

    @raven: I let my first dog go too long …

    With ours, I was pretty sure the vet would have said goodbye two weeks earlier than we did. I was also sure that two weeks later it would have been too long. There’s a window in there where you know it’s coming but you just agonize and waffle over the decision. It’s very hard.

  137. 137.

    Odie Hugh Manatee

    Absolutely beautiful… my deepest condolences for the loss of your furry family member. They are a big part of our lives and we often don’t remember that until they are gone.

  138. 138.

    westyny

    @cckids: Great story.  And I feel you, Amir. Every day I still think about my irreplaceable cat 22 years after her passing.  But now it is with love and pride that she culled me from the human herd for her own (and she loved people!).

  139. 139.

    Jay

    @frosty:

    after Casey and Digger, with Mellow and Lil’ Bit, T and I have decided, that we won’t get more pets, that could outlive us.

    The two key questions on end of life is pain? Quality of life.

  140. 140.

    Captain C

    Bianca sounds like an amazing cat, and she definitely picked the right human.  You gave her a great and wonderful life.

  145. 145.

    LurkerGirl

    That was very beautiful, Amir.  I read all of it even though it was making me cry so I could remember her along with you.  I’m so sorry for your loss, but also glad you gave her a good and wonderful life.

  146. 146.

    Ruckus

    @Gin & Tonic:

    When my sister was in the hospital, dying from cancer and had chosen EOL care rather than prolonging the pain and suffering for a month or two at most, some of her friends were standing in the corridor, telling me we needed to have her committed so that she would live that extra couple of months and I had to remind them forcefully that she has lived years with the cancer, she made her desires known, she is lucid and aware of everything and she has made her decision and you get no say in this whatsoever that she should suffer longer. You are her friends, be her best friends and let her go.

    I’d already held my father when he passed away 7 yrs before that, from 20 yrs with Alzheimers. I will never stand in the way of any animal that has truly reached end of their life, it’s cruel, often the most cruel and selfish thing you can do. Notice please, that I’m not against saving lives, it is a noble undertaking, one we should all put at the forefront of our beings, but there comes a time for every animal that is their natural end. Prolonging that because we feel guilty is – I have no words for that. This may come from my 65 years of knowing/seeing people and animals pass, from those 6 months old to one at 104. I’ve watched a person die doing what they loved in that countless number of beings, I’ve held people as they went, I’ve said goodby to a number of them, helped the ones that I could but when it’s their time it’s not my place to say anything but goodby. And hope that someone does the same for me, as Amir has done for Bianca, or numerous others have told of doing for their loved ones. Be a true friend when you are needed the most, not when it’s easy, but when it is the most difficult thing you’ve ever done or can imagine.

  149. 149.

    J R in WV

    Just wow.

    Woke up as I always do in the middle of the night and found this wonder piece on love. Thanks for sharing it with us, Amir. Well done, as usual. Bianca was obviously a sweet person who loved sharing your life, you and she were lucky to have each other. Take care, brother!

  150. 150.

    J R in WV

    @raven:

    Thanks for sharing your very meaningful drawings of such a difficult moment in the life of a pet lover. It brings back so many memories. Being in the big woods, some of our critters wander once more into the woods, late in life, never to return. Others let us know they’re ready to go.

    Take care, brother!

  153. 153.

    Elizabelle

    What a wonderful letter.  You know that Bianca was glad every day, in her little cat heart, for having picked you.  Both of your lives improved.

    I hope that Bianca’s successor will arrive, sooner rather than later, and pick you.  There has to be a cat out there who wants to live in a house full of guitars and wit.

  155. 155.

    SW

    That time when you were together is eternal.  A place you can always go to.  I am an old man now and my life seems to be largely defined besides my human family by 15-20 year blocks of time where I was bonded to exceptional felines.  When those periods are over there is immense grief and a void.  There is only one thing that after a suitable period takes away the sting and turns it into a warm memory.  A kitten.

  156. 156.

    Ramalama

    Yes the jackaltariat are great for wins. For outrages. For complete breakdowns of a loss like yours, Amir. Very sorry. The death of a loved being just sucks.

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    getsmartin

    @Amir Khalid:  – Here’s a little gem someone posted here that resonated with me shortly after I lost a feline companion several years ago. I hope it brings a measure of solace to you in the wake of your loss.

    “We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle; easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we would still live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan.”
    — Irving Townsend

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