Early yesterday evening and quite unexpectedly, one of our own lamh’s sisters passed away. She asked if I would be so kind as to cross post her post about her sister. It is below:
I am completely heartbroken to share the sad news that one of my sisters (Nicole) died suddenly yesterday, June 14, 2022 at 7:57pm.
My family is devastated. It happened so quickly. She was hospitalized a few days ago, but she was up and awake and having a laugh and a joke with my sister Natalie (her twin) less than 2days ago, and in the blink of an eye she was gone.
At this moment, I am in in shock at the suddenness of it all. My sister is gone and I just don’t have the words right now to express the way I feel right. I may have more soon but right now all I have is grief and silent tears.
She is survived by her dearly loved 5 year old son Noah, my mom and my dad, her remaining 5 sisters (me, Natalie, Robin, Jessica and Cherrie), along with 3 neices and 2 nephews and so many aunts, uncles, cousins and other extended family.
Please keep us all in your prayers and thoughts as we go through the process of grieving and funeral arrangements.
My sister Nicole was a lot of things. She was the funny, sassy, fashionista of us 5 sisters. even through all she had been through and was still going through up to the last thing she was alive she always found laughter and even joy in the middle of all her pain.
Most of all, despite what she may have thought at the end, SHE WAS LOVED!! SHE WAS LOVED!!
Click across for the pictures that lamh has posted of her sister.
For obvious reasons, not least of which a bit of respect for lamh and her family, I won’t be doing a war update tonight. It isn’t that things didn’t happen today, but one of our own could use some support and anything I would write about the war tonight will still be relevant tomorrow.
The thread is open for support to lamh and her family. I’m sure someone will be around eventually with a thread for discussion of whatever we would normally be talking about. I expect lamh will check in to the comments at some point. The last time we were in contact this afternoon she was going to try to get some rest before heading back to her mom’s for the duration.
May Nicole’s memory be for a blessing for her family and friends. And may the Seraphim Uriel bring her to rest upon the nether shore.
raven
Lahm, I’m so sorry to read this news.
Dorothy A. Winsor
Peace and strength, lahm. I’m so sorry.
Aimai
Lamh, dear, I’m so sorry for your loss—and so devastated to think of your nephew losing his mother so young. You and your sisters are in my thoughts. Much, much, love.—aimai
Suzanne
I’m just so, so sorry. Please know that you and your family, especially Noah, are in my thoughts,
Eunicecycle
I am so sorry to hear about your sister. She sounds like a wonderful person.
stinger
So very, very sorry to hear this. How devastating. She was beautiful, and she was loved.
Another Scott
Such sad news. I’m sorry, lamh. Sincere condolences to you and your sisters – especially Natalie – losing a twin is very hard (my J is a twin). Know that Nicole will always be with you.
Remember the good times.
Best wishes,
Scott.
Layer8Problem
I am so very sorry to hear this lamh. Our thoughts are with you.
A woman from anywhere (formerly Mohagan)
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved sister. Nothing I can say to ease your grief, but know you are a loved part of this jackel community and we all have you in our hearts tonight ♥️
SWMBO
Peace and comfort to all of you. Her pictures show her joy for life. Holding all of you (especially Noah) in my heart.
TaMara
I said it elsewhere, but I will repeat it here. My deepest condolences on the loss of your sister. I can’t even imagine how difficult this is for your family. Hold each other close. Rest in peace, Nicole.
zhena gogolia
We love you, lamh. I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine.
Fair Economist
So sorry, lamh. Hoping for peace and comfort for your family.
Alison Rose
I am so very sorry for your family’s loss, and wish you all of the love and support to try to get through this incredibly difficult time. Yehi zichra baruch.
Anne Laurie
I am so sorry, LAMH. I know how much your sisters mean to you, and can only imagine what a hole this must leave right now. Being so close is a blessing, but the price to pay is so harsh…
As President Biden would say: May the thought of her soon bring a smile to your lips, before it brings a tear to your eyes.
Matt Smith
Sending condolences and love to you and yours.
O. Felix Culpa
What a terrible loss for you and your family, especially little Noah. As Adam said, may Nicole’s memory be for a blessing to you and all who loved her.
Ghost of Joe Liebling’s Dog
How awful.
lamh, I am so sorry for your loss.
RedDirtGirl
Oh how terribly sad. I will hold you and your family in the light.
Elizabelle
So sad about this. Nicole was so marvelous. My heart is with lamh and her family this week.
Isn’t it something to have a family with six daughters? I think Dad lamh has many stories on tap. But one daughter has left way too early. All the best to her family and, especially, to her young son.
Nelle
Words don’t work at times like this. I’m so sorry, lamh.
Liminal Owl
lamh, I am so sorry for your loss. Your beautiful post about hergives an amazing picture of your family. Much sympathy to all of you.
HRA
My sincere condolences to you Lamh, your family and Noah!
CaseyL
What gutting, terrible news. Lamh, I am so very sorry. Your family is so great, so much greater than the sum of its parts; to lose a part is devastating. Condolences to the whole family, and especially Nicole’s children.
skerry
My deepest condolences to you, your family and young Noah.
Tenar Arha
lamh, I’m so sorry to hear about Nicole’s passing. May her memory be a blessing.
H.E.Wolf
Sending love and sympathy to you and all your family.
Barbara
Lamh, I am so sorry for you, your family, and especially Noah. I hope all of you can find strength to support each other in the love you share as a family.
scav
How terrible and sad for all involved — family and friends and especially Noah who is so young. Deepest condolences to all and hope for a strength you can find together as you mourn.
Gvg
I am so sorry Lamh. It is so hard to loose. My sympathies.
sanjeevs
So sorry to hear of your loss.
Love to you and your family.
Ruckus
Lamh, I am so sorry about your sister.
I know how hard it is to lose a sister, I’ve been through this.
Take care of yourself and the rest of your family.
debbie
I am so sorry for your family’s loss.
arrieve
I am so so sorry. Sending my love and sympathy to you and your family.
Lyrebird
Oh what an awful loss!
lamh, you and your nephew and the whole fam are in my thoughts.
others have said things more eloquently, so let me echo their statements and wish you so much support as you walk through this.
Seefleur
So very sorry for the loss of someone who was so much a part of you. Please accept the sympathy/empathy of a total stranger who understands how your life has changed in the blink of an eye.
mvr
My condolences to you and your family. That is a hard loss. May the thoughts of folks on here be some comfort.
Madeleine
Nicole’s smile—so beautiful. I am so sorry that she’s been taken from you and all your family too soon.
JCJ
Best thoughts for you and the rest of your family, especially little Noah.
BeautifulPlumage
My sincere condolences, lamh, to you and your whole family. Take care.
Wolvesvalley
I am so sorry for your loss of Nicole, lamh. May perpetual light shine upon her.
Narya
Adding my condolences; I know how hard it is to lose a sister. Sending loving kindness to you all.
Sister Golden Bear
I’m so sorry lamh. My condolences to you, your family and all who knew her.
Villago Delenda Est
Losing a sibling is never fun. I lost my little brother decades ago to AIDS related pneumonia. Can’t even begin to imagine how devastated Natalie is; twins have a special bond. Deep condolences to all the members of your family.
Anotherlurker
Dear Lamh, I am so sorry bout the loss of your sister.
May her memory bring you smiles.
Wapiti
Condolences, lahm, for you and yours.
Mai Naem mobile
Lamh, I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine. Your sister looks much much too young to be passing away. Much love and strength to you and your family, especially little Noah.
MomSense
Oh Lamh I’m so sorry for you and your family. It’s heartbreaking and traumatic to lose someone you love so unexpectedly.
My cousin’s dad (my uncle) died when my little cousin was four. One of the he things my cousin was grateful for was the way my grandparents, dad and aunt told him stories about his dad. It helped to keep his dad a part of his life as he was growing up. I hope that you and your sisters can share your stories with Noah and that it brings healing and comfort to all of you.
I will be keeping you and your family close in my thoughts and sending love and healing to all of you.
Delk
My condolences to you and your family.
trollhattan
Devastating. I’m so very sorry, please accept my condolences.
lurker
I am terribly sorry for your loss. The ones we grow up with can be the hardest to lose, like a bigger piece of one’s self. I hope however the afterlife works that she can feel the love from you and your family even as you grieve. Hold one another close and cherish the time you have with those around you, that you might laugh and smile together about shared memories. We are all with you through the wires and across the miles…
Villago Delenda Est
@Madeleine: Agreed. She puts Gilderoy Lockhart to shame. Beautiful, period. So saddened by all this. Lamh, again, deep condolences to your entire family.
SiubhanDuinne
Oh lamh, this is heartbreaking news. Condolences and big hugs to you, Natalie, Noah, and the rest of the family. May memories of your beautiful and vibrant Nicole bring smiles to all of you before long.
Ohio Mom
Such sad news. All my sympathies, lamh.
I’ve lost people I loved after long illnesses and suddenly, and suddenly was much harder to grasp, to come to terms with, to accept and to find my way forward from.
I know you and your family will take good care of one another as you adjust to this new world without Nicole. Please know that I am holding all of you in my thoughts.
Torrey
I am so very sorry! May your family find comfort in your love for each other and in your shared love for Nicole. I want to echo MomSense’s point about the importance of those who knew her sharing their fond memories and stories about her with her son as he grows up. With deepest sympathy and warm thoughts for you and your family.
Omnes Omnibus
So sorry for your loss.
MazeDancer
So unfair. Truly heart- breaking. Condolences to lamh and her entire family.
Felanius Kootea
Lamh – I’m so so sorry about your sister. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Amir Khalid
Sad news. You’ve shared many wonderful stories here about your close and loving family. And to have the grief compounded by the completely unexpected passing of one so full of life … I am so, so sorry.
Kattails
I am so sorry to hear this news about your deeply loved sister. What a generous spirit she must have had to keep smiling and joking in the midst of her own pain and, probably, fears. My deepest sympathy to you and you entire family at the loss of someone so young and vibrant; may you find peace and hearts ease in time.
lamh36
Good evening guys!
I am sitting here at home, talking about my sister NIcole with my other sisters and my mom. I’ve been reading to my mom a few of the comments and she wanted me to make sure I say “thank you to those web people” from her :-D. My sisters would all like to thank you for the kinds words of condolences as well.
My nephew Noah was visiting my dad (his grandfather) when my sister entered the hospital. Today, my mom and sisters were finally able to chat via Facetime with him to see how he’s doing. And my mom cried because he is literally the spitting image of my sister Nicole. Arrangement have been made, just working out the actual date we plan to lay her to rest.
As for me, I mentioned to Adam about my youngest sister sister Jessica, described it best:
I know it’s been along time since I’ve commented over here at BJ, but know that I have been lurking on keep up with blog content and stuff.
Thank you all so much for the condolences and sentiments.
TriassicSands
Words seem so inadequate. The tragedy of a five-year-old losing his much-too-young mother and her family suffering such a sudden, unexpected lose is difficult to process. My heart goes out to all who knew and loved Nicole.
Mr. Bemused Senior
lamh, I am new here so of course I hardly know anyone. Let me just add my condolences and hope that the loving community here helps you.
pat
I’m so sorry about your terrible loss.
Condolences to you and you family
Dan B
Your sister radiates love in your photos. Her radiance is impossible to fake. Such a loss and such memories!
FelonyGovt
I’m so sorry, lamh. I hope it’s a small comfort to know that we’re all thinking of you. As Adam says, may Nicole’s memory be a blessing.
JanieM
Sad for you, lamh — impossible to imagine how hard it must be for all of you. I’m glad Noah has a big family of people to love him. Will be thinking of all of you as the days go by.
eclare
I am so very sorry to hear about your sister. My condolences to you, her son, and your entire family.
Ruckus
@lamh36:
Once again, so sorry for your and your families loss.
I bet I speak for all of us when I say we miss you here.
prostratedragon
My sincere condolences, lamh. Just came from your lovely post with all the family photos; thank you for sharing those with us. As I recall family stories you’ve told, I know this must be a profound blow. May you be given the strength to hold each other up, and an extra prayer for Noah.
Steeplejack
I’m so sorry to hear this news, lamh. You have my prayers for you and your family.
Jay
I am so sorry lamh for you and your families loss.
Ajabu
Lamh: like everyone else here there’s nothing I can say that’s adequate. But I will tell you this. Joe Biden is right. It gets better. I lost my dad unexpectedly at age 55. Mrs. Ajabu never met him. I’ve spent the last 30 years regaling her with stories and she really feels like she knows her father-in-law. As someone once told me, no one is ever really gone as long as you keep talking about them. Much love to you and your beautiful family.
planetjanet
This is such a terrible loss and I wish for you all the strength and healing you need. Your sister was truly loved and will be missed.
BigJimSlade
Oh, lamh, I’m so sorry. I like what Anne Laurie said, quoting Biden, “May the thought of her soon bring a smile to your lips, before it brings a tear to your eyes.”
Tazj
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved sister. My condolences to you and your family. Your sister is gorgeous in her photos. You have a beautiful family.
BigJimSlade
@MomSense: I wish I knew more about my grandfather, who died when my father was three. Back in the 30s. All I know is that my grandma (who made it to 103), said, “oh, he would’ve loved you so much!”
He had a stomach ulcer and they operated on him. He died on the table. A few years later my dad’s older sister died at 9. She had her tonsils removed but they didn’t know she was a hemophiliac. The 30s were hard.
Tom Levenson
I’m so sorry for your loss. Just terrible news, and I wish I knew anything to say that would make it less so.
I fall back on the traditional forms: May you be comforted with all who mourn, and may Nicole’s memory give you solace.
Old School
My sympathies to you and your entire family.
a thousand flouncing lurkers (was fidelio)
I am so sorry to hear this news. Words fall short of describing such a loss, and I know I don’t have the words to express my regret and sympathy.
gwangung
Oh, no….I am so sorry to hear about this.
I don’t have the words to give, but love and support….I do.
Soprano2
I’m so sorry for your loss, lamh. That’s so tough, especially for your nephew. Words are really inadequate.
It’s been almost 10 years since I lost my sister suddenly. Sometimes it seems like a long time, sometimes not very long. I’m not gonna lie, the first year is hard. Sometimes you have to live one hour at a time just to make it through the day. Be kind to yourself, and don’t be afraid to get help if you need it, from whatever source helps you (as long as it’s not self-destructive). I’ll hold you and your family in my thoughts.
kalakal
Such sad news. My deepest sympathies to you and your family
Ms. Deranged in AZ
There just aren’t any proper words for such a loss. My heart goes out to you and yours lamh.
something fabulous
Oh Lahm. We met at an LA meetup years and years ago. I treasure that meeting to go with your online presence all these years. Sending all thoughts of support to you and your family from a fellow Jackal in these difficult times.
thalarctosMaritimus
I’m so sorry, lamh. Love and condolences to you and your family.
rikyrah
My condolences and for you and your family
Yutsano
Oh my dear sweet spirit! You have a loss that cannot be described in words. All my love and healing light to you and your family.
Asparagus Aspersions
I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
eddie blake
oh, that’s just horrible. so sorry for your loss.
suilebhan
I am so sorry for your and your family’s sudden loss. May Nicole’s memory be a blessing for you all.
grandmaBear
I’m so sorry for your loss, lamh. May all the wonderful memories of her stay with you forever.
Ann Marie
Lamh, I am so sorry for your loss. Sudden deaths hit so hard. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Scamp Dog
So sorry to hear this news! Wishing you comfort at this difficult time.
Brachiator
I am very sorry.
My condolences to you and your family.
Baud
My condolences.
worn
This is such, terrible crushing news. I can’t even imagine. Words fail me, so I will just offer my sincere condolences. I am quite sure the world is much a diminished place with Nicole’s passing.
Holding you and your family in the light in this time of grief, lamh. Please take care.
(And I, like others, miss you commenting here)
Westyny
Very sorry to hear of this, iamh and Adam. From an ocean away I’m sending thoughts of healing and peace.
OzarkHillbilly
So very sorry for your loss lamh. My oldest sis and best friend died without warning when she was 42. It was a gut punch I never really recovered from. May you find comfort in the arms of your sisters.
JPL
lamh I’m so sorry and hold your family close. My deepest sympathies.
Debbie(Aussie)
Dearest lamh, my condolences to you, your sisters, your parents and extended family, but especially to Noah. I think it was a jackal that said, may there be a time when thinking of Nicole brings a smile to your face before a tear to your eye. You and your family are in my thoughts, I send you love from downunder.
la caterina
Lamh, what a crushing blow. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing a bit of her light with us. Know that you are loved here among the jackals!
Betty Cracker
Keeping all who loved Nicole in my thoughts and wishing peace and strength to the entire family. May her memory be a blessing.
Wanderer
So very sorry for your loss.
Laura Too
I’m so sorry for your loss. May you find some comfort knowing you are loved here.
EarthWindFire
Sending your family love. I’m so sorry.
brantl
So sorry for your loss. Words / actions fail us at moments like these.
Betty
Oh, LAMH, you have lost your glamour girl sister! How heartbroken you and your family must be. Sending prayers for God’s help to see through these days of grief. If only words could ease your pain, this community would give you thousands. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.
Raoul Paste
May the warmth of the people here help a little. Condolences
p.a.
So sorry for you & your family’s loss. May you find comfort in rach others’ love.
WaterGirl
Oh, lamh, my heart breaks for you. I can’t even imagine, it must seem impossible that she is gone. This is a terrible loss for Noah, but at the same time he is lucky to be in a close-knit family like yours where he will still receive all the love in the world. Sending love to your family, and especially to you.
Starfish
Dear lamh, the loss of a sister is such a big thing. I feel for you, your siblings, your nephew, and your mom.
cbear
Peace and love to you and your family, lamh.
J R in WV
@lamh36:
We are so sorry about your sudden loss — thanks for sharing the photos of your beautiful family.
Sincere Condolences from West Virginia!!
Miss Bianca
Oh, lamh, I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences. Losing a sister is so incredibly painful.
Miki
I am so very sorry for your loss, lamh. Sending you and your family, and especially little Noah, my deepest sympathies and condolences.
The Lodger
I’m so sorry for you, all of your sisters, Noah, and the rest of your family. My condolences.
Bumper
Lamh, I am so sorry for your loss. What a tragedy for all of you. Please hold Noah close and tell him wonderful things about his mom. My deepest sympathy to you all.
StringOnAStick
Such a terrible loss; my condolences on such a blow. I know that you and your loving family will hold Noah in your hearts and lives, and make sure he knows his mother for the person she was.
Baquist
Sincere condolences on your loss, Lamh. Your family pictures are so beautiful and happy; you all and especially Noah are in our thoughts.
Ben Cisco
lamh,
I am so very sorry for your loss; the suddenness is all the more tragic.
Sending healing thoughts for all of you.
dkinPa
So sorry to hear this sad news, Lamh. My condolences to you and your family.