I don’t know who Noah Millman is, but he’s one of those thoughtful conservatives we’re always hearing about:
There’s no way to make this other than personal, so I’ll just say it straight out: my anxieties about gay marriage had little really to do with real, practical concerns about “the state of marriage in America” and certainly nothing to do with “fears” of “teh gays” but, rather, with very real anxieties about my own marriage and my own ability, as a flawed human being, to sustain it in the face of adversity.
Update. To be clear, Millman is for gay marriage now (hence the past tense). The essay is an explanation of his former opposition to it and why he’s changed his mind. I just find the whole essay strangely humorous or humorously strange.