Here’s an email I got:
I’ve been reading your site for a couple of years, though posting only rarely. I love: Tunch, Lily, photo’s of the two of them, Rescue stories, Thursday night menus, your openness, your interests (though I can’t say I’m a Steelers fan), your distaste of certain kinds of internet craziness (I seem to remember you telling posters to stop going on about Andrew Sullivan and his obsession with Sarah Palin’s baby), the care that posters often show for you and other members of the community, the not-compulsive ideology of Balloon Juice.
Recently, I feel like some of the posts and comments are getting meaner/more hyperbolic/less insightful. The hullaballoo today over FDL seemed nutty and overwrought (and not even you were able to calm those waters for awhile!) I posted on 3/25 in response to a mistermix front page comment: “I used to think that the notion that the Catholic Church is an institution devoted to fucking young boys was just a joke. But it’s clearly a fact.” I’m not Catholic, I’m hugely liberal. I hate what is happening in the Catholic Church and the awful responses from the Vatican. But, come on. It’s just not an “institution devoted to fucking young boys.” I don’t learn from that. I don’t get ideas from that. I’m not motivated to act by that statement. A couple of your readers really took me on in the comments…some responses were very thoughtful…some were just over-the-top nasty. One guy (I assume) said he wasn’t interested in any useful discussion on the topic. So why would we be spending time here?
Anyway, my question for you: Do you think the tone is changing on your site? I’m feeling kinda sad.
But best to you — and your pals — in your new home.
And Mistermix- just so people know publicly, I thought your statement was over-the-top and just the kind of thing I would have said, so don’t think I’m attacking you. But maybe that means I’m the problem.
But has the general tone changed here? We’ve always been shrill, but the comments do seem more in your face, there does seem like there is less snark. Maybe everyone, from me down to the first time commenters needs to tone it down a notch. It just doesn’t seem that friendly here anymore some days, and it doesn’t seem like there is as much room for dissent as there once was, and I blame myself for that.
Something to think about. I’ve got a bunch to do and probably won’t be back until dinner. Have a good one.