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Hi everyone. So I need some help. I know a lot of you are concerned about jacy. I am, too. But I believe if she is going through something and needs to take a break, we should honor that. She’s had some tough situations over the last few years.

I do know that she used the GoFundMe and her proceeds from her Etsy sales to save her house. So that goal was accomplished. But I am seeing in the comments some of you may have paid for work that you did not receive.

What I would like you to do is contact me at whats4dinnersolutions (at) live (dot) com and let me know if you paid for work you did not receive. I’ll need a receipt of some kind from you (paypal or etsy). GoFundMe was strictly donations, not payment for a product.

I’m trying to get a handle on what was paid for, but not received.

I only have confirmation of one person, but if there are more, since I did the original post, I’d like to know so I can confer with John about next steps.

I appreciate how much you all care about one of our wayward jackals. I hope if I disappear you’d look high and low for me, because more than likely, there would be a bunch of critters who would need to be fed.

And just to balance out, if you did receive your ordered items, please let us know in the comments.

Thanks!

ETA: I should add, jacy completed a bunch of work for me, on schedule. <3

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  1. 1.

    geg6

    Several months ago (early summer, I think), I got the print I ordered as a housewarming gift for my niece and her husband. So no problems here. I hope everything is okay with her. Keeping good thoughts.

  4. 4.

    joel hanes

    I seem to remember that Giuliano della Rovere, aka Pope Julius II, was very unhappy with the delivery schedule for the ceiling of the Sistine.

  5. 5.

    Adam L Silverman

    I hope if I disappear you’d look high and low for me, because more than likely, there would be a bunch of critters who would need to be fed.

    Most likely your critters will have eaten you.

  6. 6.

    Barbara

    @Mary G: Same here. It is great to have a supportive community but when your travails involve other people it is sometimes best not to be too public about things. Some time ago I was involved in a parenting forum that some used to secretly stalk exes who they knew posted there.

  10. 10.

    SiubhanDuinne

    A very short time before she went walkabout (a couple of weeks, maybe, if that) I exchanged comments with Jacy about two custom pieces I hoped she would do. She agreed enthusiastically but said she was swamped at the time and could I wait to order. No hurry on my part, so I said I’d wait — and have not, in fact, placed an order. I think of Jacy often and wish her all the best.

    TaMara, you’re a good jackal to follow up like this.

  11. 11.

    Jane2

    I just finished “Lowborn” by Kerry Hudson, her memoir of growing up in the UK’s poorest communities. It really brought home how desperate and marginal some people’s lives are, and how one thing that would be an annoyance to many of us is devastating to someone else, and how overwhelming it is to get up each day.

    I didn’t buy anything from Jacy, but at this point if I did I’d consider it a donation for the time being. I’m sure she didn’t mean to shortchange anyone.

  17. 17.

    CaseyL

    I’ve seen lean times, and may see them again, so I can empathize. I’m also an artist whose work can just refuse to come out the way I want it to, and whose Muse can sometimes take unscheduled time off.

    Sending good thoughts to jacy, and to the people still waiting for their pieces.

  21. 21.

    LivingInExile

    I ordered a mug and a print. Received both in a timely manner. Very nice. Good luck Jacy, hope all is well.

  23. 23.

    LuciaMia

    Anyone have the ink to her current Etsy page? One I have (Spectral Obelisk) comes up ‘not found.’

  27. 27.

    la caterina

    My other half donated but did not order. So happy to hear that Jacy was able to save her home. I hope she’s ok. You’re a good egg, Tamara.

  28. 28.

    satby

    When this first came up there was another person who also ordered and didn’t get her order. Don’t remember who though. jackie, maybe?
    In case they miss this thread.

  33. 33.

    JPL

    Tamara, You’re a good person for following through. If you do talk to Jacy, let her know we are thinking of her.

  34. 34.

    imonlylurking

    Please let her know that we are thinking about her, and if she needs more help to let you know. I friended her on Facebook when I ordered from her, and she hasn’t posted in a really long time.

  35. 35.

    Jackie

    Yes it was me, I ordered 4, intended for Christmas gifts, so I told her I could wait until fall since I was sure we had generated a lot of work. I would love to have the pictures but if she is unable to do the work i would understand and settle for a refund so I can try to find other gifts. I will e mail you.

  37. 37.

    SiubhanDuinne

    @Jane2:

    I just finished “Lowborn” by Kerry Hudson, her memoir of growing up in the UK’s poorest communities.

    Interestingly, the author’s name is not dissimilar — though certainly not identical — to the name Jacy uses on FB.

    Moderators: I don’t think I’m violating privacy here, as a lot of folks know Jacy under her real name on other social media platforms, but don’t hesitate to delete this comment if I’ve crossed a line.

    I am familiar with some, but not all, Internet traditions.

  39. 39.

    JGabriel

    @TaMara (HFG):

    Missing man eaten by own dogs

    The deputy said that Mack kept his dogs well fed and cared for. The only other time the deputies had dealt with him was in 2017, when Mack called from the hospital to ask if someone could check on his dogs, Pitts said.

    “This man loved his animals,” he said.

    And his animals loved him … for dinner.

  40. 40.

    Ruckus

    @Jane2:
    @CaseyL:
    I like others here have seen lean and very lean times. There is a lot more to it than just the lack of money. Food and place to lay down come to mind. Some stability, the knowledge that you might have a next meal, and what the hell happened that you had nothing to do with comes to mind. I know that a lot of us have to worry about the next meal and a roof, probably the vast majority to some degree. I was at the train station last week and waiting for the train was a man with unkempt hair, flip flops with feet that hadn’t been cleaned in a long time and that look of total nothingness that one gets when hope is no longer a possibility or even an abstract idea, and I understand, at least to some degree his plight. He looked like he had to beg for the cost of the ticket and I know the sheriffs checking tickets looked at his, but he had nothing other than pants and a tee shirt. I’ve never been where he is but I’ve certainly been close enough to feel only blocks and moments away. It’s closer than many know or want to know.

  42. 42.

    something fabulous

    I ordered a print and got mine timely as well. Looks like maybe when the problem happened it was for some custom orders as opposed to more-readily available stock kinds of items? I do hope everything is ok. Thanks TaMara, for checking in like this.

  43. 43.

    opiejeanne

    I ordered a print from Jacy for my sister’s birthday and she received it in March. I think about her fairly often. Please give her our kind regards.

  44. 44.

    TaMara (HFG)

    Thanks everyone for taking time with this. I think we have three people total and working on getting them refunds.

    You guys are awesome. And if it’s not obvious, sending out lots of warm thoughts to jacy.

  46. 46.

    opiejeanne

    @Ruckus: I have never been in such dire straits but it is a recurring nightmare. That, and the one where I’m at school or church wearing nothing but my underpants.

    There were times when we could just pay our bills and feed ourselves, and didn’t have enough left over to buy a bucket of paint, back when said bucket cost $8-$12. That lasted about six months. Both vehicles broke down once when we had a new baby and payday was still a week away, and Dave had to ride his bicycle to the store for food and Enfamil, but that’s as bad as it ever got for us. He used to ride that bike to work at city hall, about a mile away.

  47. 47.

    Mel

    @Ruckus:
    It’s terrifying how easy it is in this country to go from making ends meet to having the world fall down around you. All it takes is an illness, a job lay-off, a car dying, etc. for so many people and families to fall straight through the gaping holes in what remains of our safety net.

    There is so much emotional pain and loss of basic dignity that comes with it as well: feelings of constant fear, hopelessness, desperation, and shame, even thought the events that cause so many people into desperate circumstances are so often completely outside of their control. It shouldn’t be this way anywhere, but especially in a country with such an obscene amount of wealth at the top.

    Anyone that gets in touch with Jacy, would you please tell her I’m thinking of her? Her kindness and her humor have brightened some pretty dark days for me and for others here. Same goes for you, Ruckus, Siubhan, Amir, Dorothy, Mnem, Bill in Glendale, Anne, Tamara, Chet, Betty…

    You’re good people, all.

  48. 48.

    SiubhanDuinne

    @Mel:

    Thank you for this, Mel. I’m going through a pretty grim patch myself right now, and take both energy and optimism from the jackaltariat. You’re right, there are very good people who hang out at Balloon Juice. I’m glad we can be there for each other.

    Wishing you well.

  49. 49.

    Steve in the ATL

    @SiubhanDuinne: if you need something, let me know! Unless you’re just upset about the way the curling championship turned out, in which case you’re on your own.

  54. 54.

    Ruckus

    @opiejeanne:
    @Mel:
    I’ve said on here a few times that I’ve had people give me shit for walking, yelling at me that I must be poor or I’d be driving. I own a car. It has just over 10,000 miles on the odometer. It’s probably my last car. I bought it because my last one died. And right now I could afford it. I walk because it’s better for my health. Which is, according to my docs is pretty damn good. I’m not so sure, but then I’ve never been over 70 before. But poverty must be on the minds of those people who rolled down their windows to yell at me about not having money. I have some, not much at all as those things go but I’ve learned to live beneath my means and put away something for older old age. Which I was doing before the last republican financial apocalypse. BTW I almost lost my first business from a prior republican financial apocalypse. Smart guys they are, those republican financial geniuses.
    (A side note – why do people think that because someone is greedy they are good business people who will suddenly become less greedy as they gain more power?)
    Life is a risk. Getting up tomorrow is a risk. My next door neighbor has COPD, kidney failure and has had 2 heart attacks. He’s 73. I had a friend who’s gone 3 yrs now, he was 26. My cousin was 6 months old. Mom made it one day short of 95.
    Life is a risk. Always.
    Not that it ends, it always does that, but when. And how.
    Life is a risk and if it isn’t there are many ways to make it riskier. We have insurance to ensure that we can at least modify the results of that risk. We have religion to tell us that the risk is OK. But that doesn’t change the risk, only the perception of it. The risk is 100%. The timing and the method is what we deal with. Or not. If it was only money, those living on the street, like that guy on the train, wouldn’t have that look in their eyes.

  55. 55.

    Steve in the ATL

    @Ruckus:

    I’ve had people give me shit for walking

    Nobody walks in LA. Only a nobody walks in LA.

    (It was a song in the when-MTV-played-music era. Check with Mnems or someone of similar age.)

  56. 56.

    HinTN

    I ordered a Mardi Craw print and received the electronic file. We had discussed that she might print one and sign it and I would pay extra bigly for that. She said she would study on that but it never went any further. I ordered the We are but Breath and Shadow tee shirt and wore it to the Seattle meet-up. Someone in the comments noticed, so there’s that.

    Sending best wishes and virtual comfort ((((((((((jacy))))))))))

  57. 57.

    HinTN

    @opiejeanne: At least you’ve got underpants. Not so much in mine. Also, there’s the exam for which I’ve never cracked a book the whole semester. That’s a favorite.

  61. 61.

    Kathleen

    I ordered a print and received it. You are good people TaMara. If you communicate with Jacy please give her my best.

  62. 62.

    lurker dean

    thanks for checking on this. i didn’t order anything but i did donate. i remember on her gofundme that she mentioned she was having cognitive difficulties after having chemo. i hope she will stop by and let us know she is okay.

  63. 63.

    Miss Bianca

    I hope she’s OK and able/willing to fill more orders. I had been waiting to get some Luna commemorative art till I could think about it without melting down completely.

  66. 66.

    Ruckus

    @Steve in the ATL:
    Thanks a fucking lot for that nobody, pal.
    @SiubhanDuinne:
    Hang in there and let us know if we can do anything.
    If you are like me stuff is ongoing, as in it keeps on going and going and going.
    Oh well that seems to be either normal or at least normal for me…….

  68. 68.

    thalarctosMaritimus

    @HinTN: I remember remarking on that shirt! You sat up at our end of the table, and I noticed how striking it was.

  69. 69.

    MoCA Ace

    @HinTN: My dream was wandering the University and I can’t find the class to take the exam… then I come to the realization it’s because I have never attended the class. I’ll bet I was out of school for 10 years before I stopped waking in a panic because of that dream.

    I was laughing with (at) my college attending son this weekend as he described having that dream all the time.

  72. 72.

    Rachel B.

    I have ordered and received several prints and a tote bag, so no problems here except that I wanted to order more and she’s missing from Etsy. Please give her best wishes, and when she is ready to open for business again, she has at least one customer who is waiting for her. (Doubtless, she has any number of customers waiting; she does beautiful work.)

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