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… riddled with inexplicable and elementary errors of law and fact

Hi god, it’s us. Thanks a heap, you’re having a great week and it’s only Thursday!

This isn’t Democrats spending madly. This is government catching up.

Their freedom requires your slavery.

A thin legal pretext to veneer over their personal religious and political desires

That’s my take and I am available for criticism at this time.

Give the craziest people you know everything they want and hope they don’t ask for more? Great plan.

Putting aside our relentless self-interest because the moral imperative is crystal clear.

… pundit janitors mopping up after the GOP

Technically true, but collectively nonsense

Come on, media. you have one job. start doing it.

I did not have this on my fuck 2022 bingo card.

When do the post office & the dmv weigh in on the wuhan virus?

“And when the Committee says to “report your income,” that could mean anything!

I didn’t have alien invasion on my 2023 BINGO card.

A lot of Dems talk about what the media tells them to talk about. Not helpful.

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Looks kinda quiet in the back room at the moment.

Did you know that the Atlanta D.A. (Fani Willis) is blackety-black-black-black?

Well, if you didn’t know that before, then you would certainly know it after DJT included “the racist D.A. in Crime Ridden Atlanta” in one of his all caps rants today.

Oh, sorry,  I got that wrong. THE RACIST DA IN CRIME RIDDEN ATLANTA.  There, that’s better.

Oh, and while I’m at it, if you have issues with the sleeves on little kid’s shirt almost nearly kinda sorta looking different than a typical boy’s shirt sleeves, then you have a lot of issues around gender and sexuality.  Case in point.

Totally open thread.

Update: Autocorrect hates me today.

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  3. 3.

    JPL

    @Cliosfanboy:  Macy’s is selling pj’s for toddler boys that are fitted and someone thought they looked girlish.    They just can’t help themselves.

  5. 5.

    WaterGirl

    @Cliosfanboy: In an earlier thread, JPL posted the review below.  You can see the shirt in question at this link.

    I was shopping for my grandSON for pajamas to wear on our vacation and I purchased 2 of these outfits… they are awful for boys the print is sharks but the way they are made with the semi butterfly sleeves is not for boys…I don’t buy girly looking clothes for boys! Everyone I looked at him in this set I was disgusted!

  6. 6.

    JPL

    So trump has a court date on August 10th to remove Fani.   It’s unlikely to succeed but does that mean, she won’t indict until after that?  He wants to disqualify her, because she is mean to him, or something like that.

  10. 10.

    dmsilev

    THE RACIST DA IN CRIME RIDDEN ATLANTA.

    Let me guess. He got another ‘you’re about to be indicted’ letter, this time from her.

  11. 11.

    bbleh

    I keep wondering whether there is some maximal (or okay asymptotic) level of outrage beyond which the MAGA/Fox/totallynotNazi cultists just don’t get their usual thrill, and if so (1) what happens after we get there (or close enough) and (2) how close we are.

    As to (1) I assume reactions will range from just changing the channel and drifting away to full cold-turkey withdrawal to wild lashing out, including some turning viciously on their former masters.  And as to (2), the carny-barkers seem to be pushing the same buttons again and again, like they don’t have anything new, and already we’re seeing some pretty wild lashing out.

    It’s “interesting” … from a distance.

  12. 12.

    WaterGirl

    @JPL: Do you have a link for that?  Can anyone who might be brought up on charges bring a case to have the top indicting official removed?

    SLAP HIM DOWN.

    If any Trump judge doesn’t immediately slap that down, they should be removed from the bench.  Reason:  they have no respect for the law.

  14. 14.

    JPL

    @WaterGirl: The reason that I think you are correct is that they are delaying trials in Fulton County until after the indictment.   The tenth date would push back the calendar another week.

  15. 15.

    JPL

    @WaterGirl: Since it’s the AJC, I’ll copy and paste.   The state Supreme Court already decided not to hear it, but this time he went to Cobb Cty because he wants the judge off the case too.
    A judge has set a hearing for Aug. 10 on a motion by Donald Trump’s attorneys to disqualify District Attorney Fani Willis from prosecuting possible criminal interference in the 2020 presidential election.
    Legal observers consider Trump’s motion a long shot, but the hearing comes as Willis could be on the verge of asking a recently seated grand jury to hand up an indictments. All signs point to the former president being charged.
    ……
    Trump’s filing — called a writ of mandamus and prohibition — seeks to head that off. It was initially filed before the Georgia Supreme Court, but the court unanimously declined to hear it and indicated that, if it had agreed to do so, the motion would have failed. Trump’s legal team then filed a similar motion in Fulton Superior Court.
    Also Friday, Cathy Latham, the former chair of the Coffee County GOP and an alternate elector who cast her vote for Trump, joined Trump’s motion. And attorneys for former state GOP chair David Shafer, another alternate elector who has been notified he is a target of the investigation, made an entry of appearance in the case before Schuster.

  16. 16.

    Baud

    Update: Autocorrect hates me today.

    I’ve been complaining about typos in my comments for a few days now. I think something is going on.

    I demand a congressional hearing.

  17. 17.

    Mike G

    Every Trump tweet ever:
    “WAH WAH SNIVELING SNOT WAH WHINEY WAH WAH CRYING SNOTTY TANTRUM WAH CRYBABY WAAH POOPOO WEEWEE WAH WAH WITCHUNT BINKY WAAAH WAH LIES WAH WHINE WHINEY GRIPING WAH WAH HOAX WAH TINKLE WAH BOOHOO BUNKERBABY! SEND MONEY!”

  18. 18.

    WaterGirl

    @JPL: These illegal electors are doubling down – a more intelligent person would keep a lower profile and hope they aren’t indicted themselves!

  20. 20.

    Baud

    Litzz11

    Well will ya lookie here at what they did in a small town? They closed the ob/gyn unit at the Henry Co. TN Medical Center.

    The Governor offers no solution. Because Republicans don’t know how to solve problems, after all, their core belief is that government SHOULDN’T solve problems. That’s for the “free hand of the market.”

    Welp, that free hand just gave women in Henry County the finger.

    Link

  25. 25.

    WaterGirl

    @Baud: You know, back when some model of car had the gas tank  that would explode if you got rear-ended just right, even at a slow speed, and they wouldn’t correct the problem even though it would have cost something like 4 cents or $4 per vehicle – because it was still cheaper to pay out for the occasional accident where, you know, people died, than it would be to multiply the 4 cents or 4 bucks times the number of cards – and I would wonder the decision-makers didn’t have family members who drive, who might die in one of those accidents.

    Now I wonder if Republicans don’t have even one woman in their lives that they care enough about that might get pregnant, or might miscarry, or might need medical care.

    So I ask again, what the fuck is wrong with these people?

  30. 30.

    WaterGirl

    @Baud: Yeah, I almost added my thoughts on Republican women – don’t they at least have daughters or friends who might be of child-bearing years?  Or might want to, you know, make their own life choices?

    But I figured that sentence was run-on already, x 10.

  31. 31.

    Eyeroller

    @JPL: ​
     From what I could tell from the images in the earlier thread, the kids’s PJs in question are not particularly fitted. I mentioned in that thread that they have standard set-in sleeves. It’s possible that since they are knits, they may cling to the kid’s arms or seem loose or tight or something. I don’t think the old bat complaining even knew what “butterfly sleeves” are. It’s just lunacy.

  32. 32.

    zhena gogolia

    Wow, I didn’t know who Randy Meisner was when people were talking about him the other day. Great voice.

  33. 33.

    RedDirtGirl

    Standing in line to see Ricki Lee Jones at the Brooklyn Bandshell! Can’t wait!

  36. 36.

    Scout211

    The crazy man who once was president keeps losing. So much losing.

     CNN — 
    A federal judge in Florida on Friday dismissed a $475 million defamation lawsuit former President Donald Trump brought against CNN that accused the network of defaming him by using the phrase “the big lie” and allegedly comparing him to Adolf Hitler.

  40. 40.

    lowtechcyclist

    @zhena gogolia:

    Wow, I didn’t know who Randy Meisner was when people were talking about him the other day. Great voice.

    Best song ever about calculus. ;-)

  41. 41.

    lowtechcyclist

    We’re having a doozy of a thunderstorm in southern Maryland right now.

    And just as I was typing ‘thunder,’ damned if it didn’t thunder like it was right on top of us. The cats both went running.

  44. 44.

    bbleh

    @Eyeroller: this.  I was expecting something elastic, or something gathered like in pleats, or … something other than straight cardboard/comic-book “shirt”.

  46. 46.

    Jay

    @WaterGirl:

    The parts, (two plastic covers over the band strapping holding the tank in place which prevented the straps rusting so badly), cost $4 installed at the factory, which Ford did for new builds,

    as a retrofit or recall repair for cars on the road, it would have cost $479 per car,

    $1,151,108, 297.

    So it was quite a bit cheaper to pay out the lawsuits than fix the cars already on the road.

    I owned, drove on the road and raced a lot of Pinto’s over the years. It was a cheap car, with lot’s of track potential for little money. I always installed a SSCA approved fuel tank in the hatchback area and removed the stock gas tank.

    Not so much for the fire hazard, which was low, but because it greatly improved airflow under the car.

  49. 49.

    Dr. Jakyll and Miss Deride

    @Scout211: The judge is a Trump appointee and Federalist Society member in good standing who inserted all kinds of irascible political dicta into his opinion, but the relevant law is so clear that even he had to throw the case out.

  51. 51.

    Steeplejack

    Came back to Sighthound Hall an hour ago from the Trader Joe’s run in a sudden torrential rain. Got drenched just dashing from the car in the driveway to the house.

    And I discovered that the power is out! 🤞

  52. 52.

    RSA

    @lowtechcyclist:  We’re having a doozy of a thunderstorm in southern Maryland right now.

    We had a power flicker in Carroll County, just west of Baltimore, about an hour ago.  Not too bad.

    Yesterday, though! I was flying from New York state back to Maryland, and my 5:20pm flight didn’t take off until after 11:00pm, because of ground actions (or whatever they’re called) at BWI.

  57. 57.

    Citizen Alan

    @Baud: And they hate themselves for being women and are thus the most aggressive about punishing other women just for being women. They’re also bitter to the point of madness that their conservative ideology has left them less happy than feminist women who actively pursued their own happiness and self-fulfillment and want to destroy those options for their own daughters. Conservatives are the worst, but conservative women are the worst of the worst.

  59. 59.

    Citizen Alan

    @WaterGirl: In 1992, the late-great Molly Ivins wrote with withering disdain about Republican women who were the mothers of gay children and who nevertheless attended the GOP National Convention that year and wildly cheered Pat Buchanan as he demonized gays and lesbians.

  60. 60.

    AM in NC

    @WaterGirl:   Holy Christ.  That style of little boy pajamas, with the banded sleeve, has been around FOREVER.  My youngest is going off to college in the fall, and he and his older brother wore hand-me-downs of these PJs from his older cousins.  This is in the South, so it’s not some “sissy yankee thing” that’s just come along.

    And my two boys were positively EDIBLE in those PJs. So frikin’ cute.

  61. 61.

    Geminid

    @Amir Khalid: I’ve started calling it Ought-to-Correct. Like my phone decides, “Well, he really ought to have typed this instead.”

    Drives me crazy!

  63. 63.

    Citizen Alan

    @Geminid:  The auto correct on my phone is insane. Frequently, it will type what I say perfectly, then think for a second or 2, and then erase it and replace it with complete gibberish. Amusingly, just now, it tried to replace the word “gibberish” with “liberal,” but then apparently thought better of it. 😀

  64. 64.

    Michael Bersin

    Former Missouri Governor (and former Missouri Attorney General) Jay Nixon has joined that republican front organization, No Labels.

    I can’t repeat the title of the post here, because language. The link.

  66. 66.

    Michael Bersin

    @WaterGirl:

    Over forty years ago in the parking lot outside an orchestra rehearsal in a city in the northeast one of the other musicians drove up in one of the vehicles in question with a rag stuffed in where the gas cap should have been. My ride driver quipped to the person who got out of their car, “I knew they were bad, but I didn’t know they came with their own fuse.”

  67. 67.

    Alison Rose

    @Eyeroller: It reminds me of a customer at my old job who had placed an order online for a children’s snow shovel, and entered the following note at checkout: “If the colors vary, please send as ‘masculine’ a color as possible, either NAVY BLUE as in the picture, orange, or red. NO PINK!!!”

    (I’d posted about this on FB at the time so I still had her exact wording :P)

    This snow shovel was meant for kids aged 3-8, but this bitch was already worried the boy’s dick would fall off if he touched something pink. The shovel only came in blue but I swear, if we did have pink, I would’ve buzzed the warehouse and been like SEND HER THE PINK ONE!!!! I also very much wanted to add a comment to her packing slip explaining that blue was considered feminine and pink masculine up until the early 20th century.

    Part of me hopes that kid grows up to be super gay, but part of me is afraid for him if he does.

  68. 68.

    Sure Lurkalot

    @Alison Rose:

    I would love for someone to ask him to define “Marxist”.

    I would love for someone to stick a sock in his mouth, hold his hands up to his face while I wrap around several layers of duct tape. I’m into public service.

  69. 69.

    Alison Rose

    @Sure Lurkalot: Well, that too. I know! Let’s start a BJ donation thermometer to bribe a doctor to anesthetize him and wire his jaw shut. I mean, he could still type, but never hearing his voice again would be wonderful.

  70. 70.

    MelissaM

    Watergirl, FYI: I’m across Wright St. from you in U (I *think* you are in C.) Are there any other C-U peeps?

    (I know I rarely post, and when I do it’s in Garden Chat or On the Road, but I’ve been around since before Lily appeared.)

  72. 72.

    Jay

    @Michael Bersin:

    Fords of that era, didn’t have locking gas hatches or locking gas caps, so there were quite often stolen. Because the flap covered the cap, one often found out that the cap had been stolen when you went to fill up. At the time, Ford did not have a gas cap standard across all models, so it was rare to find a gas cap that fit at a gas station.

    Having rolled several cars of that era, the gas cap didn’t stop the gas from flooding out, if you were upside down.

  73. 73.

    Ruckus

    OK. I’ve got a small rant.

    I got a notice for jury duty and find that I can register online. OK I can if I have a windows computer that is running software from over 20+ yrs ago. Isn’t that the stone age? I mean I bought my first computer in 1978 and programed a computer for the first time in 1970 using 1 inch punch tape and in 1974 using punch cards but I can’t use a computer that is less than 25 yrs old and a copy of windows that is older than that? I recycled all of the computers from that timeframe in the long ago. Hell I just sold 2 computers that are 5 and 7 yrs old and neither of them would work. This is the equivalent of driving a 1969 Corvair. And thinking it’s cool.

  74. 74.

    MelissaM

    In other things, niece and her (trans) wife bailed on wife’s annual family vacation in Floriduh, due to the anti-queerness down there. Good for them!

  75. 75.

    Suzanne

    @WaterGirl: The really dumb shit about this comment is that kids’ PJs are required to be of flame-retardant material OR made in a fitted style (but can be of non-flame-retardant fabric). So the person is objecting to the fitted sleeves…. that are literally sewn that way to keep a kid safe.

  76. 76.

    JPL

    @NotMax:  They still sell those and have one sitting in the garage for the grand imps.   Now you buy helmets also, but I’m not sure that those can tip over.

  78. 78.

    NotMax

    @JPL

    Yeah, but the newer ones are non-Marxist. ;)

    …The Big Wheel brand was reintroduced under new ownership in 2003. The Big Wheel was inducted into the National Toy Hall of Fame at The Strong in Rochester, New York, in 2009. In 2021, the Big Wheel brand was acquired by Schylling Inc., a company specializing in classic toys and games. Source

  79. 79.

    Suzanne

    @Citizen Alan: They’re also bitter to the point of madness that their conservative ideology has left them less happy than feminist women who actively pursued their own happiness and self-fulfillment and want to destroy those options for their own daughters. Conservatives are the worst, but conservative women are the worst of the worst.

     
    There’s this exceedingly broken, pathological mindset that I see in a lot of unhappy, rule-follow-y type people. They get soooooo freaked out and angry when their kids will not follow in their footsteps. (And who would? Because their path looks like it leads to nothing but misery.) They need need neeeeeeeed someone else to prove to them that their life choices weren’t bad — by making the same life choices. That kind of validation-seeking is so fucked up. It’s not confined to women, either. I see it in people who get pissed when their kids leave their small town. My grandfather tried to do it to me by attempting to guilt me into joining the Army.

    People who are genuinely satisfied with their lives aren’t threatened by others not following their path.

  82. 82.

    MagdaInBlack

    @Suzanne: Tracks with something my husband once said about his family.

    “Us making different choices makes them question their own choices, and that makes them uncomfortable.

    Eta: poor delicate flowers that they are.

  83. 83.

    FastEdD

    Dave, a stagehand buddy of mine, had the same problem as most stagehands-other people walk off with your tools. He went out and got a multi-tool and painted in pink, then bedazzled it with rhinestones. Made it as gay as possible. He still has it.

    My gf wanted a furniture dolly for her bday, so I gave it the same treatment. The most girly Dolly imaginable!

  85. 85.

    rekoob

    @Suzanne: With any luck, you’re able to get away to the Delaware beaches without incident. I know you have a lot going on.

    I benefitted from Steeplejack’s recommendation of Agave, and I’d be interested in your take should you wind up there.

    Agave

    He also mentioned, and I concur, that there’s a lot to like at the various Dogfish Head locations:

    Dogfish

    Happy trails! I was in Pittsburgh for the Pittsburgh Vintage Grand Prix last weekend. Great fun.

  87. 87.

    Primer Gray (formerly yet another Jeff)

    @Steeplejack: Didn’t lose power in my part of Fairfax Co…we were pretty  happy about that. Hope it came back on for you quickly.

  89. 89.

    Ruckus

    @Suzanne:

    It used to be quite common for children to follow in their parents footsteps as far a work area goes. I am one who did and would tell people to follow YOUR idea of a working life. It is your life, not theirs. I had an idea what career I’d like to follow and had a parent who really, really made that difficult. So difficult that I didn’t do that.

    If you have zero idea what you might like to do, as a lot of people have when they are young, try different things/jobs and see which ones are OK and which ones you absolutely hate. Don’t follow that second path no matter who tells you that you HAVE to. It’s not their life, it’s your’s. In the end you will be a hell of a lot happier if you follow your own path, even if some times it is a dead end road. I know of people that wanted to work in say entertainment, thought it would be great, and found out they were wrong, as well a few that stayed in it and enjoyed it. I’ve had 3 major careers and really liked only one, at the end of the day. That was the shortest one. The one I did the longest (two segments separated by 18 yrs – the other two) was the one chosen for me. It was satisfying – just not as satisfying as the best one. The one I thought I would like the most, I ended up liking the least. I ended up traveling 8-9 months a year on that one. It gets really, really, really old to basically live in airports.

  90. 90.

    TriassicSands

    @The Lodger: Has TFG ever called a white person racist?

    White people, by definition, cannot be racist. At least, not in the GOP. Or if you are a white racist.

  91. 91.

    UncleEbeneezer

    You mean “Racist DA With RICO Convictions“:

    Last year, her office charged rappers Young Thug and Gunna and 26 others in a sprawling, 65-count RICO case following an 88-page grand-jury indictment characterising their YSL group as a “criminal street gang” behind 182 instances of gang activity and criminal conspiracies.

    Her office also led RICO indictments against 12 alleged members of the Bloods gang, including the rapper YFN Lucci, and 26 alleged members of the Drug Rich gang, connected to a gang string of robberies and home invasions across Atlanta.

    “I have some legal advice: Don’t confess to crimes on rap lyrics if you do not want them used,” she told reporters at a press conference last year. “Or at least get out of my county.”

    In a controversial case from 2014, she served as the lead prosecutor in a RICO case involving 35 Atlanta public school educators tied to an infamous cheating scandal, ultimately resulting in racketeering convictions against 11 of 12 people accused of manipulating students’ standardised test scores.

  93. 93.

    WaterGirl

    @Citizen Alan: What gets me is when you speak it or type it, it looks good, and then just as you are pressing send it switches it to some fucked up thing at the last minute.

    But it’s too late because the fucked up one has been sent.

  94. 94.

    mrmoshpotato

    @JPL:

    Macy’s is selling pj’s for toddler boys that are fitted and someone thought they looked girlish. They just can’t help themselves. 

    These miserable slapdicks need to punch themselves in the dicks, get a hobby, and shut the fuck up.

  95. 95.

    Ken

    Thanks for the explainer on the pajamas, that would have bugged me — especially since I see it hasn’t reached Fox/Cruz/Greene levels of attention (yet), so google wouldn’t have helped.

    Now can someone help me with these, from the twitter nitter feed of Bennett Tomlin (who I follow for schadenfreude-filled crypto news):

    Discussing right wing controversies with someone who isn’t very online or in that media ecosystem sounds insane:

    the blob of water wasn’t a man or a woman
    two adults in a normal relationship kissed briefly
    the movie about the nuclear bomb didn’t make physicists look badass

    The third one’s Oppenheimer, and in comments he explained the first is the Elementals movie (which has a non-binary blob of water), but I have no idea about the second. Context makes me think it’s another movie?

  97. 97.

    UncleEbeneezer

    @Alison Rose: The whole pink thing is so ridiculous.  I even get students at only 8-10 years old thinking it’s weird that I sometimes wear a pink shirt at tennis lessons.  What can I say, I’m half Sicilian and pretty tan from all the time in the sun so pink actually sorta pops for me.

    I also have these multi-colored rubber dots that I use for the pee wees to keep them all spread out.  No pink one, but the boys always fight over who gets the blue one.  These boys are 3-5 years old and already obsessed with gender norms.  It’s so sad…

  99. 99.

    mrmoshpotato

    @Citizen Alan:

    Amusingly, just now, it tried to replace the word “gibberish” with “liberal,” but then apparently thought better of it. 

    Your phone is haunted by a silly ghost. :)

  101. 101.

    Ruckus

    @WaterGirl:

    They started losing power. They found a very damaged individual to be their leader because to them he promised to bring them back to the front of the pack. Being at the front of a pack of howling laughing hyenas really, really isn’t a laughing matter. So he didn’t laugh, he became 10000% convinced that he is the number one human in existence. But he’d have to be about a million percent more human to be in any way acceptable as a possible member of an at all civilized society, let along a member to follow. As a leader, change that million to a billion percent better. And it would take him a whole bunch of lifetimes to get there. If it was even possible. I don’t think it is.

  105. 105.

    Odie Hugh Manatee

    @Jay:

    Actually the plastic plate was a kind of skid plate so that when the rear end was crushed in an accident, the gas tank would be less likely to be punctured as it is pushed into the rear axle housing. The rear axle housing has a mounting clip welded to it that holds the brake line in place. It also acts like a can opener in an accident! The skid plate prevented that.

    I own a 78 Mustang II which has that plate in place…lol!

  106. 106.

    Joseph Patrick Lurker

    DJT included “the racist D.A. in Crime Ridden Atlanta” in one of his all caps rants today.

    If Trump is ever convicted in any of these pending cases, he deserves to be strapped in a straitjacket and leg irons, placed in solitary confinement, banned from communicating with his idiot followers via social media, and never let out of his cell. I can’t think of anyone else more deserving of dying in prison than this rat-fucking bastard.

  108. 108.

    Another Scott

    I saw Barbie this afternoon.

    * * * * *

    Everyone should see it.

    Cheers,
    Scott.

  109. 109.

    Ceci n est pas mon nym

    @Ken: ​ I vaguely recall that there was a big right-wing flare-up over 0.5 seconds of some Disney movie where a kid in the background of a scene got dropped off at school by two moms. Maybe that’s the second one?

  110. 110.

    Suzanne

    @rekoob: Thanks. We’re still planning on leaving tomorrow, but as of Thursday, I’m filled with anxiety about it. SuzMom has developed vascular necrosis in the area where her hip repair surgery was. And she now has oxycodone to manage the pain until she can get in to see the orthopedic surgeon on Wednesday. And then, today, she decided to skip the oxycodone because she wanted to have beer instead. And was in tears from the pain. FFS. I cannot stop her from doing dumb shit.

    But I want to note….. when my grandparents were in their last years and she cared for them, we didn’t have a family vacation for ten years. (Her siblings and my cousins did, but no one ever offered to help.) I swore that I would never do that to my kids, I would never rob them of experiences. I am feeling very torn and I hate it.

  112. 112.

    Dorothy A. Winsor

    @Suzanne: That sounds so stressful. Sometimes you can’t stop people from doing dumb shit, even when they should know better. I hope you get a chance to enjoy this vacation too, not just the kids.

  113. 113.

    lowtechcyclist

    @Suzanne:

    We’re still planning on leaving tomorrow, but as of Thursday, I’m filled with anxiety about it. SuzMom has developed vascular necrosis in the area where her hip repair surgery was. And she now has oxycodone to manage the pain until she can get in to see the orthopedic surgeon on Wednesday. And then, today, she decided to skip the oxycodone because she wanted to have beer instead. And was in tears from the pain. FFS. I cannot stop her from doing dumb shit.

    But I want to note….. when my grandparents were in their last years and she cared for them, we didn’t have a family vacation for ten years. (Her siblings and my cousins did, but no one ever offered to help.) I swore that I would never do that to my kids, I would never rob them of experiences. I am feeling very torn and I hate it.

    Such a hard situation – I really feel for you, because there’s no good answer.  Good luck, whatever you choose.

  114. 114.

    lowtechcyclist

    @Steeplejack: ​

    Got it an hour ago in NoVA—a real frog-strangler!

    Gotta admit, I hadn’t heard that one before!

    Anyway, our power flickered off for a few seconds, and then back on, three or four times in fairly quick succession, then stayed on for the rest of the evening. Some friends near us lost power and BGE is telling them it might be Tuesday before power is restored. (By comparison, the power was out for 4 days when freakin’ Hurricane Isabel came through in 2003.)​
    ​
    ​

  116. 116.

    UncleEbeneezer

    @Another Scott: It was AMAZING!  We are still talking about it.  Will probably go see it again since I’m sure there are so many things that we didn’t even catch.

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    Jackie

    @Suzanne: There is no one stubborner than an elderly determined to be independent. My dad was the most stubbornness old coot right to the end – at 99. I both admired his determination and hated his stubbornness – and I am 95% him☹️ I keep telling myself to be more willing to compromise with my children when “the time comes.” I hope I remember!

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    Elizabelle

    Trump has a limited vocabulary.  It’s like English is his second language.

    Severely limited.

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    RaflW

    @Scout211: The case was dismissed with prejudice, so it’s done. What I’d like to see is for courts to start making Trump pay for the defendant’s lawyers when these frivolous pieces of merde get this result.

    Even if Trump just throws other people’s PAC money away, it would help make his horrible legal harassment strategy a bit more costly and less attractive.

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    Michael Bersin

    @The Lodger:

    There was a period of time in our part of Missouri in election seasons when Democratic Party members’ yards had Nixon and Ike [Skelton] yard signs and their cars had Nixon and Ike bumper stickers.

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    Suzanne

    @Dorothy A. Winsor: Her doing dumb shit makes me feel less bad about leaving. Like, I run out of sympathy when someone is being self-destructive. Probably not the most compassionate response, but I am not a nice person.

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    CaseyL

    @Suzanne: ​
     

    Sometimes people do “dumb shit” to manipulate the people around them into taking care of them, making decisions for them, or not doing what they don’t want done.

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    StringOnAStick

    @Suzanne: You just have me some real clarity about my RW, rule following, authoritarian father.  I left the field he shoved me into (basically the same one as his) when it collapsed in the early ’90’s, and he’s been angry about it ever since.  It’s been almost 30 years was he’ll still make snide comments.  I’m 65, retired and financially secure but the fact that I don’t try to get back into a career I left in 1994 still pisses him off to his very core.  It sure doesn’t make me want to spend any time with him, that’s for sure.

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    Soprano2

    @Suzanne: You have my sympathy; it’s hard to watch someone you love engage in self-destructive behavior.  I have a regular customer at the bar whose elderly mother is an addict who tries to get pain meds at the ER sometimes. She is stressed about her mom almost every time I see her. When I finally realized in my late 20’s that I couldn’t control what my mother did (I read “Co-Dependent No More”, it was a revelation to me) it was so freeing. You cannot make her take care of herself, and you aren’t responsible for her.

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    kalakal

    @Suzanne: My MIL was determined to keep her independence. In her mid 90s when she  refused all attempts to offer her any form of assistance, sheltered accomodation etc. She was very self reliant and capable but very frail rattling around in a big old house by herself, driving etc. Her neighbours were great and always checking on her as were some cousins. At the age of 97 an idiot ran a red light  and T boned her car severely injuring her ( C5 fracture) and she came to live with us.  Mrs kalakal had spent 5 months with her in Ohio ( we live in Fl) in the 2 previous years nursing her after falls resulting in injuries and she was still insisting on living alone. It was her choice and we had to respect it ( I’d be the same) but we lived in dread for years of her falling and being alone for hours in pain ( or dead)  before anyone noticed.

    I’m so sorry for all the stress and grief it’s causing you.

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    Matt McIrvin

    @Miss Bianca: If I had to guess, I’d guess that the ends of the sleeves are a little tight so they ride up, and it makes the sleeves look a bit puffy when the kid is wearing them, which blows a fuse in this person’s head because that’s a girl thing.

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