Busy day- lot of grocery shopping and prepping for Homecoming. Made a run of about 60 Italian meatballs to freeze for this weekend, and made some ravioli for dinner.
A while back I told the lady friend that I was thinking about hitting a thrift shop for a ring so I could get used to wearing one so once we got married the only strange thing attached to me would be her. I forgot about it, but the missus surprised me with a ring. It’s titanium and not only that it fit and she did not even know my size.
It was a thoughtful gift but you and I both know she is marking her territory for the other various ladies in my life to back off. The ring still feels a little odd (especially while typing), but I will get used to it especially considering the alternative is her peeing on my leg every morning. I think a ring will be better for both of us in the long run.
Freemark
I worry about YOU with a titanium ring. If your finger swells they are hell to cut through. ERs hate them.
John Cole
@Freemark: it’s gonna be replaced
piratedan
hearing rumblings via social media that the WGA has reached a tentative agreement with the studios
Elizabelle
@piratedan: Yep. LA Times breaking news.
The Writers Guild of America and the major Hollywood studios have reached a tentative deal that would end a strike that has lasted 146 days, tossed thousands of people out of work and exposed deep anxiety over changes brought by technology.
The proposed three-year contract, which would still have to be ratified by the union’s 11,500 members, would boost pay rates and residual payments for streaming shows and impose new rules surrounding the use of artificial intelligence.
“We can say, with great pride, that this deal is exceptional — with meaningful gains and protections for writers in every sector of the membership,” the WGA negotiating committee said in a Sunday night message to its members.
piratedan
@John Cole: drop us a line if/when you get to Tucson. Can point you to places of interest and some awesome places to chow.
Elizabelle
From the FTF NY Times. (And the actors and other professionals — directors, set designers, etc. — remain on strike, with what the NYT describes as even more demands. No talks currently underway.)
Urza
@Elizabelle: Maybe losing several multiples of what the writers were asking for in current stock value and future shows to sell actually got through to the execs? Nah.
BSR
I’ve had a ring (gold, not ti) on my finger for almost 40 years. It may have been a bit too small at the wedding, but it hasn’t come off since and probably won’t until it’s cut off. No regerts… It’s not always a bad thing.
Adam L Silverman
@John Cole: Get a silicone one if you’re worried about your finger swelling or just the knuckle doing so.
Also, if you want something special made, I recommend my friends Tito and Marie Gonzalez at Tito’s Gallery in Las Vegas, New Mexico. Every time I need to have the band adjusted on my turquoise ring (right ring finger) and even though Tito didn’t make the ring, they take good care of me. Here’s the link to their Etsy storefront.
dmsilev
@Elizabelle: If the reports are accurate, the writers got most of what they wanted. Odds are very good that SAG-AFTRA will take note…
Alison Rose
John, I love you, but you can keep your kinks to yourself, you know.
Lyrebird
@Adam L Silverman: Are you sure you don’t just like their stuff because this amber ring could star in the “I can give you HIMARS” video? Look at the 3rd, 4th, and 5th image.
Yes I am kidding, but that is a wild ring worth looking at even if I’m not sure it’s very practical to wear
Kristine
John, you old romantic, you.
Alison Rose
@Adam L Silverman: Wow, their stuff is beautiful. Someone gotta buy me this for Hanukkah or something.
Adam L Silverman
@Lyrebird: I like them because I’ve known them for years. They were close friends of my dad and are still friends of my mom.
Mel
@Adam L Silverman: That bloodstone pendant is gorgeous!
RepubAnon
Alternatively, lipstick on the collar… otherwise, Steve may join in the marking contest
Gary K
I had to have my wedding band off for a couple of weeks in the spring for surgeries and recovery. The day I put it back on I realized how much my spouse had done for me during that time of illness and helplessness — she amply fulfilled the “in sickness and in health” vow that she’d uttered 47 years earlier.
Westyny
I like watching the missus bringing the SS Cole into harbor . . .
Maxim
Thanks for the laugh, John.
Sounds like good news on the writers’ strike.
Joelle
@piratedan: it’s a date!
hitchhiker
@Westyny:
Yeah, me too. I’ve somehow missed the entire leadup to this post, so I had no idea it was even happening.
Such a lovely & unexpected surprise!
devore
yep. Takes awhile to get used to wearing one. One suggestion, don’t ever mention that it’s uncomfortable. Plenty of other things to (not) complain about. But complaining about a wedding ring being uncomfortable probably tops the list.
BTW, did you get the invisible one yet? It fits in your nose.
Redshift
My dad couldn’t take his wedding ring off, and that really made an impression on me. I made it a point to periodically make sure I could remove mine. I still can after nearly 40 years. I could still get stuck with getting it cut off in some kind of injury situation, but short of that, if I’m going into the hospital or something, I can take it off beforehand.
CaseyL
“Titanium” says “I’m keeping you.” A pity titanium doesn’t work well as a ring, because it turns such gorgeous colors when heated.
The only thing I’ve ever worn that I simply could not get used to was a wristwatch. I’d find myself unconsciously trying to shake it off, like a cat trying to get rid of a collar.
I hope you two go road-tripping to check out potential residences in multiple states. The reports from such a trip would be equal parts heartwarming and hilarious.
Origuy
On first reading, I missed the word “her” and wondered where you are wearing this ring.
Jay
T and I have, (had) silver Indigenous rings, mine was a Raven, hers is an Eagle.
I went through two, because of what I do. Both of mine, cracked in half because of wear and tear.
I still miss mine, but am not going to replace it.
Mingobat (f/k/a Karen in GA)
@Adam L Silverman: That is some gorgeous jewelry. Cole could do a lot worse than to get rings from them. (But he can’t have the dichroic ring. I just ordered it.)
Odie Hugh Manatee
@Freemark:
Titanium expands quite a bit when heat is applied. Of course that might mean incinerating John’s finger to get it off so there’s that small problem.
You’ve been bagged and tagged, John. My wife and I gave up our individuality 37 years ago this coming Wednesday. In that time I only lost my ring once and boy was I happy when I found it!
NotMax
What, no mood ring?
:)
cain
I haven’t worn a ring in awhile.. even though I was married 2 years ago. I was wearing my grandfather’s ring but it came off and I just recently found it again – but it’s too loose. We are waiting till I go to India so that I can get a silver ring hopefully one that’s naturally darkened and oxide – wanna make it really celtic style.
MisterForkbeard
@Freemark: Ive got a palladium ring, it’s the same thing. Really nice, though
ETA: One of my in-laws does high quality artificial diamond jewelry. Guilt free, environmentally friendly as i understand.
If I ever need a new ring I’ll probably go with that. There’s one that’s functional made out of diamond dust and it’s just stupid cool.
Anne Laurie
You made a wise choice, Cole — congratulations again!
(And best wishes to Joelle, of course.)
If you two don’t find the perfect ring on Adam’s friends’ site, I can recommend Jacob Albee, who is an expert at very cool wedding rings made of recycled gold with meteorite insets. The Spousal Unit & I settled on one of his rings as an anniversary replacement for the opal ring that was what we could afford 30 years earlier (poor little ring, I’d replaced a broken opal twice already, and still have it tucked away safely).
Jay
@cain:
silver is soft, so go thick, and a full ring, not an expandable one.
Villago Delenda Est
No adamantium ring? No vibranium ring? BORING.
Still it’s great that you’re getting a wedding ring in the first place, John.
HumboldtBlue
There are some things left private.
Baud
Por qué no los dos?
JPL
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raven
I never wore a ring in my first marriage but have worn one for 20 years now. My mom gave my wife her mom’s wedding ring!
Soprano2
@cain: You can go to a jewelry store and get a sizer for the inside of the ring. Hubby & I both have one. They don’t cost that much.
Betty Cracker
When we picked out our wedding rings, the mister suggested we have them inscribed on the inside with “you and no other.” I thought that was sweet and romantic. Later, I learned he got that quote from the movie “Braveheart,” which was popular at the time.
The wife in that movie comes to a sticky end early in the film, and the husband, William Wallace, was gruesomely tortured to death at the conclusion. But we’ve worn our inscribed rings without historical tragedies for 26 years now. I wish you and Joelle the same kind of luck, John!
RSA
Here’s a funny thing: Once you get used to it, your hand may feel a little odd if you’re not wearing it. I stopped wearing a ring a few years ago, and still sometimes i’ll feel as if it’s missing.
eclare
@JPL:
Yep! I put ordering free tests on the calendar a few days ago.
Caravelle
Yay, congratulations!
Ohio Mom
@JPL: Thank you! Just finished ordering my four test kits.
The site includes a list of extended expiration dates too. I’ll be checking our old test stash to see which ones are still good.
Once again we see that BJ really is a full-service blog.
BruceFromOhio
I guess they do things a little different in WVa.
Frank Wilhoit
@BruceFromOhio: We *really* don’t want to know what they do in Ohio.
Starfish
@John Cole: I was here to say what Freemark said because you are accident-prone.
I have a beautiful platinum wedding ring. I put it on too soon after having my only child, and everyone who needed to cut it off kept telling me how beautiful my ring was as they decided whether they were going to cut it off.
So let me tell you about my beautiful ring that we got repaired after it got cut off. It lives in its ring box because I can’t be trusted to wear a ring and not cause harm to myself.
Joelle
@Westyny: yes slow and steady wins the race.
VOR
I kept wearing my wedding ring after my wife died but eventually my fingers swelled too much. I bought a tungsten carbide ring, a fairly dense and heavy metal. It’s a featureless grey color as the idea was to intentionally not look like a wedding ring, but still serve as a reminder of my late wife. I wear it on my right hand to be clearer that it is not a wedding ring.
StringOnAStick
@Gary K: I hope you show your wife this sweet post! That warmed my heart.
We’ve never bought or worn wedding rings. 23 years later I sometimes think we should and a post like this helps me see the emotional impact of a reminder of the bond created by marriage.
schrodingers_cat
I wear a ring and/or mangalsutra when the occasion demands it, not daily. I take off all my jewelry when I am home.
Almost Retired
I have a wedding ring, but almost never wear it. I can’t stand wearing jewelry/watches, etc. of any type. I would have been a terrible rapper. Or Disco King.
Burnspbesq
@RepubAnon:
My cat rubs on my leg every time I emerge from the shower. It’s a pain in the ass when you’re trying to get dressed quickly.
Ben Cisco
I wore mine for a long time after Mrs. Cisco passed, but I eventually took it off – felt like I didn’t get to have that anymore.
Glad to hear you’re in a good place soul mate-wise. It’s a good place to be.
Misterpuff
Title should have been:
Put A Ring On It.
Gemina13
@devore: The pseudospouse says he wears an invisible one, too–in a place where only his urologist is more familiar. ;)
I joke it’s either that, or Craig Ferguson’s ugly patterned sweaters, where the patterns are hieroglyphics that read, “Back off, this one’s mine!”
. . . Actually, the missus might want to consider some of those sweaters for Cole instead of a ring . . .
MMM
And for guys to back off